When the weather breaks, it seems to bring out all types of possibilities. I recently had an old boyfriend try to re-enter my world. Not that there is nothing wrong with him or anything, I mean we had a ball when we were together. And he is funny as all out, very intelligent and easy to talk to (all the things which are very important to me). It is just that, that was then and this is now. Then I was younger (we both were) and I really didn’t mind him coming in and out of my life on a frequent basis. We became very close, so we knew how to pull each other’s strings. He was very consistent in his none committal behavior and at the time I was okay with that. I knew what I was dealing with whenever I was with him, which I truly appreciated his ability to keep it 100 with me. Yet, as I got older I wanted more than just frequent fun times and wanted to have more of a committed relationship, but knowing him so well, I knew that was not going to happen. He is very outgoing and loves being out and about and constantly around people. Even his profession requires him to be outgoing as well, which allows him to stay true to himself. I, on the other hand, am mellower and really enjoy my space and my me times. I need to have down time to reflect. So, when he reappeared I knew that although he was older he was still the same person. And I am okay with that. I had to let him know that although he is a great person and we will forever be friends regardless of what or who enter our lives, I am not willing to put up with the non-committal thing. You’re either in or out. So, I had to block his advances. Because he knows I speak the truth he didn’t try to convince me otherwise.
If you are willing to be with the wrong person, imagine how wonderful it will be when the right person comes along! In order for that to happen, you can’t go around feeling sad, or in fear or denial. It’s not working! And that may not be a bad thing. When a relationship stops working, it usually means someone has grown. Someone is ready to receive more and have more than the relationship offers. Someone is ready to be loved, honored, and treated the way they really want to be treated. Could that someone be you? If it is you that must mean you are ready to say goodbye, ready to dry your eyes, and ready to let go! Like I said from the beginning when the weather breaks, it seems to bring out all types of possibilities
Starting next year, TSA cannot accept some state driver’s licenses that don’t meet acceptable security standards.
Travelers don’t say we didn’t warn you. Beginning in January 2018, driver’s licenses from some states may be rejected as a form of identification for boarding an aircraft.
The Transportation Security Administration (TSA), while gradually implementing the REAL ID Act passed by Congress in 2005, has announced that starting next year it cannot accept some state driver’s licenses that don’t meet acceptable security standards.
Residents of nine states — Kentucky, Maine, Minnesota, Missouri, Montana, Oklahoma, Pennsylvania, South Carolina and Washington — may need to use a passport or some other government-approved identification unless their driver’s licenses are changed by next year. Other states have been granted extensions while they prepare to comply with the requirement.
Signs have been placed near checkpoints in some airports to notify passengers of the changing requirements.
“This doesn’t mean that people will be told, ‘Hey, you can’t fly,’” a TSA spokesman said on Wednesday. “You’ll just have to have another form of ID.”
Some states have raised privacy concerns, saying the ID requirements may produce information on individuals that can be compiled in a national database. “This is a game of intimidation being played out between Congress and the federal government and state governments, with ordinary citizens being squeezed in the middle,” Edward Hasbrouck of the Identity Project, a privacy advocate, told the New York Times in December.
The REAL ID Act was based on recommendations of the 9/11 Commission to guard against terrorist attacks. Proponents say more stringent IDs may also ward off fraud and identity theft.
Taken from AARP.com
Whew! It is rough out there. There are a whole lot of cold and cruel notions floating around out there. Yet, when we take them to heart and allow them to rule our minds, we cannot have peace.
However, when we learn to love and accept ourselves, to recognize what is true and valuable for us, we can reject all the negativity and hype and concentrate on working toward the goals that we cherish whatever they may be. Inner peace does not manifest when standing still, but kindles our drive to achieve.
Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy, but when you feel you need some inner peace, why not take the time to relax, and rid yourself of all the mental noise and stress.
I find human beings to be very interesting. And I love helping others, but I must be honest and say that I am amazed at how fragile some human beings can be. I mean it seems that people are always looking for others to validate their worth and acknowledge them in some form. When are we going to learn that our happiness, how we feel about ourselves, life dreams and goals are our own responsibility to make come to fruitions, not anyone else’s? We see it all the time. If we gain a few pounds, we beat ourselves up. If we feel we have not moved along in our careers, we constantly think we are not good enough or haven’t done our best. If we say something silly, we ponder over it for days wondering what others thought. We are constantly feeding our minds with negative messages, but when are we going to start feeding our minds with positive messages.
We all need to have self-love in order to survive in this life. When we love ourselves we are comfortable with whom we are, we can forgive ourselves and we can accept ourselves. Granted we may not get praised much in life, which is why it is important that we do it ourselves. We must learn to pat ourselves on the back more so that we can make it a habit of focusing more on the positive feelings. If we are not able to be happy in our home that is within us, there is nowhere else for us to go!
Why not start each day meditating on all the positive things about you. We all have great attributes, so dig down deep within and allow yourself to embrace and most importantly BELIEVE all your greatness. Validate your own self-worth and show yourself some love, then you will find you no longer need others approval just your own.
If this doesn’t make him think about pulling his pants up, what will?
Oklahoma Attorney General Mike Hunter said, “The means by which brothers Ryan and Richard Tate conducted business to defraud individuals from across the country is unconscionable and a blatant disregard for those who entrusted them to produce their work.”
And, the Tates call themselves Christians. Pppfffftttt!!! More on that below.
As many of you know from our past coverage of Tate Publishing’s shady dealings, and ultimate (and expected) demise, they were accused of failing to pay royalties, and accepting money for services that were never performed – right up until they closed their doors. We speculate (but, of course, can’t prove) that they knew they were going under, but kept collecting money for services anyway, perhaps padding their pockets on the way out the door? On a Facebook page set up for victims of Tate Publishing, I let the authors know that accepting money for services you never intend to perform is a crime. Many authors were assuming they’d have to file civil cases against the firm. I predicted they’d be arrested. And, they were. When you charge people for services just weeks or days before you close your doors, suspicions mount.
– Non-payment of author royalties dating back months
– Services not provided and book orders not fulfilled, even after authors paid thousands
– Money received by authors was being funneled into the Tates personal accounts, and being used for casinos, etc.
– Since royalties weren’t being paid, it’s believed the money received from booksellers and distributors for book sales was not being distributed to authors but, rather, was being funneled into the Tates personal accounts.
– When they closed their doors, Tate posted statements on their website saying authors could pay them $50 for copies of their files (files those authors had already paid Tate to create!). In order to get those files, authors were also required to sign a contract stating: “I agree to indemnify and hold harmless Tate Publishing & Enterprises, LLC and its subsidiaries, officers, executives, employees, and any such heirs they may have. I understand that termination of these agreements does not entitle me to any refund or monetary compensation whatsoever.”
So, authors had to pay $50 AND waive their rights to any refund or future legal action just to, again, get copies of files they’d already paid Tate THOUSANDS to create.
“Embezzlement is the act of withholding assets for the purpose of conversion (theft) of such assets, by one or more persons to whom the assets were entrusted, either to be held or to be used for specific purposes.” (Wikipedia)
If Tate was accepting money for book sales from Ingram (the largest book distributor) and retailers, and eventually funneling that money into their personal bank accounts instead of paying their authors’ royalties, that would likely be embezzlement.
If Tate was taking money from authors for services they didn’t intend to perform and, instead of hiring/paying professionals to perform those services, was funneling that money into their personal bank accounts, that, too, would likely be embezzlement.
If Tate was taking money from authors to print copies of their books and, rather than printing those books, funneling that money into their personal bank accounts instead, that would likely be embezzlement.
If Tate refused to send an author a justified refund and, instead, funneled that author’s money into a personal bank account would likely be embezzlement.
“Extortion (also called shakedown, outwresting and exaction) is a criminal offense of obtaining money, property, or services from an individual or institution, through coercion. It is sometimes euphemistically referred to as a ‘protection racket’ since the racketeers often phrase their demands as payment for ‘protection’ from (real or hypothetical) threats from unspecified other parties.” (Wikipedia)
When Tate told authors they needed to pay $50 to get copies of their files, or they could instead have their files destroyed, that was (allegedly) extortion. The fact that Tate also made authors complete a contract stating they wouldn’t sue Tate, and that Tate didn’t owe them any refunds before they could get copies of their files made their actions even worse. In fact, it seems that should be a whole other criminal charge…but I’m no lawyer.
“Pattern of Racketeering Activity” is “obtaining or extorting money illegally or carrying on illegal business activities.”
In a nutshell, this means fraud.
THEY’RE CHRISTIANS? REALLY?!?!
What makes this case even more despicable is that Tate Publishing strongly touted itself as a Christian organization, using it in their advertising, and even putting Bible quotes on the copyright pages of books it published. “Christians” don’t typically embezzle, extort, or racketeer so I, personally, think the whole “Christian” label may have been a ruse to get authors to sign up with Tate Publishing, implying a false sense of security. But, that’s just my opinion. I’m a Christian, too, but I don’t use my faith to promote my business. I really don’t think God wants his flock using his name to make money.
According to a copy of an email from Richard Tate, which was allegedly sent to some Tate authors shortly after he was bailed out of jail, Tate is now allowing authors to order copies of their books, as well as promotional materials. Hmmm. Seems like the Tates have found a way to keep money coming in for their legal fees!
What author in their right mind would send MORE money to a company that has (allegedly!) committed all of these crimes?! I definitely do NOT trust these people!
What’s sad is that so many authors may have failed to research Tate’s reputation before signing on with them, or perhaps just ignored all the bad press. That’s never a good idea! There have been numerous complaints about Tate posted online over the years.
About The Author
Angela Hoy is the publisher of WritersWeekly.com, and the co-owner of BookLocker.com (one of the original POD publishers that still gets books to market in less than a month), PubPreppers.com (print and ebook design for authors who truly want to self-publish), and Abuzz Press (the publishing co-op that charges no setup fees).
It comes as no surprise that stress is just a fact of life. If we want to have success, it’s inevitable that challenges will occur along the way. Yet, stress is likely to be something you think of negatively, it doesn’t have to be. Actually, stress can be a good thing. Think of a time you were given an assignment at work or a timeline on something you know you need to deal with, but maybe you felt you weren’t equipped to get done what needed to be done. So, you began to stress about the situation, then out of nowhere you calmed yourself down took the time and dealt with the problem head on and the outcome was a success. Which only proves that essentially, you have to learn how to make stress your friend.
Below are a few ways you can make stress your friend:
- Accept the stress
More often than not we like to think we are on top of things. We want to be able to handle everything thrown our way with no trouble. The result? Not being able to admit when we are stressed. Once you realize that stress doesn’t make you weak, it only makes you human you feel a great sense of release.
- Take your time
Stress is great for helping you reach achievements. But, being overly stressed occurs when there is too much pressure to reach goals. You have to come to terms with the fact that slow and steady will get you much further. Take your time and don’t try to tackle too much at once and the stress you feel will be a good thing. If you’re feeling stressed, why not plan and organize your time and give yourself plenty of time to do all your tasks.
- Learn from everything
Times of stress are a great lesson. Take every challenge as an opportunity to grow. Being stressed will make you much more head-strong for the next challenge that you have to face. Plus, it will force you to appreciate your down time (something most of us struggle with from time to time!).
- Ask for a hand
For stress to not get out of hand, you must be able to ask for help. Knowing when the stress you feel is something you can handle or when it has gone too far is essential. If you recognize that things are getting on top of you, ask for help. Turn to friends, family, a co-worker. Anyone that cares about you and are willing to help as well as, are willing to listen. That way, you will have just the right dose of stress without it being too overwhelming.
- Look for the positives
This one is very important, because sometimes when we are stressed we adopt a negative mindset. I am sure many of us can relate to this. We focus on the little things as though they are huge. Gaining perspective will help overcome this and turn stress into a good thing. Be grateful that you are busy, gaining achievements and progressing in life. That way, you will learn to appreciate that stress can be a good thing.
For All Our Fighters Out There
“You just do it. You force yourself to get up. You force yourself to put one foot in front of the other, and dammit you refuse to let it get to you. You fight. You cry. You curse. Then you go about your life of living. That’s how I’ve done it. There’s no other way”
– Elizabeth Taylor
Get Up Every Morning And Tell Yourself
“Yes, I Can Do This!”