I hope you all had a wonderful and blessed Thanksgiving. I don’t know about you, but for me it seems each year I allow the holidays to sneak up on me. I enjoy giving gifts, especially at Christmas time. And each year I make the same statement to myself that I will start my Christmas shopping in the spring and summer and never do. It doesn’t hit me that we are near the holiday season until fall appears and is almost over. I truly must do better. I enjoy shopping for others and seeing their expressions, but I don’t enjoy feeling obligated to do anything that I do for anyone. When I do something for someone I do it because I want to not because I have to.
I have a friend who is always sending me little gifts in the mail and every time I get a package I get so excited. But also each time she did so I would get the feeling that I then have to send her something. Luckily, she is a true friend and when I explained to her how I felt when I didn’t send her something, she told me I should never feel that way, which was a great feeling of relief. Because to be honest, there are times I am not able to send her something at that time. I am so grateful she understands that, for it takes a lot of weight off of me. And now when we send each other something we know it is from the heart and not out of obligation.
I say all this because we all have obligations, but the reality is some people will be disappointed no matter what you do. This is why you should always check in with yourself first. The more you say “no” to things that don’t matter to you, the easier it is to say “yes” to things that do. You’re not a bad person if you let some people down, so show yourself some love if you feel as though you are. We can’t do everything for everyone in every situation. Do what you can when you can and when it aligns with your values and be sure to do it with a cheerful heart.
We must take the time to celebrate often in our lives. I am not stating we must pop bottles every day, but if that is what you want to do then go for it. The point is to find something to celebrate each day, week or month. I am sure there is something you may have accomplished, completed or conquered within a day, a week or a month that you felt really good about. If so, then you need to celebrate yourself. Even if there is no one else around to help you celebrate, just go for it and pat yourself on the back by celebrating in some way. Take yourself out for a special meal, or treat yourself to a special item you have been eyeing for a while. Whichever way you choose to celebrate yourself go ahead and do it! We are always looking for others to give us a pat on the back or to make us feel good about ourselves. There is nothing wrong with feeling good about yourself. There is nothing wrong with acknowledging your worth, your accomplishments or you having a great day, week, or month. Why wait to celebrate only on special occasions? Special occasions only occur periodically, which will leave you having only a few things to celebrate. When you celebrate the great things about you and your life you are showing gratitude and thankfulness, which will only bring more things for you to celebrate. So go ahead and live your best life and start celebrating yourself whenever you feel like doing so, not only will it make you feel better about yourself it will send good vibes to others and make them want to celebrate themselves as well.
Congratulations and Shout Out!
To the eldest of my three fabulous sons to be honored for his entrepreneurship and service within the community. I am so very proud of the man and human being you are.
The 100 Men of Color Black Tie and Gala Awards 2018October 26
Venue: The Bushnell Theater (Maxwell M. & Ruth R. Belding Theater)
The Fight Continues!
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Your calm mind is the ultimate weapon against your challenges.