Love’s Theme – Barry White
Think of these as tune-ups for your most important relationship.
It’s not always easy to be happy as they seem, but it’s definitely worth the effort.
If you’re a busy working mom married to a busy working dad (or mom), it’s a sad fact that your relationship tends to take a backseat to, well, everything. The kids, your careers, your friends. Too often we take our spouses for granted.
Not to mention, relationships are just plain hard. Just like home renovation, repairing underlying structural problems requires long hours and major work. You can also give your relationship a little TLC with minor touch-ups—a quick coat of paint, if you will. The love hacks below are just that: simple and easy ways to improve your bond and give your marriage/relationship the love it needs to go the distance.
- Listen up—and respond
The next time your spouse asks you to tune in to his favorite new song, grab an earbud and join in the fun.
Sounds simple, right? But it’s actually a lot harder—and more necessary—than it seems. Remember the last time your partner went off on a long tangent about the latest gaming system? Did you say, “Uh-huh, babe,” and then continue shopping on Amazon? You’ve got to give a little to get a lot.
- Get more sleep
It’s not just good for your physical health—it helps heal your marriage/relationship too.
- Hold hands
Even when it’s hard.
Sure, it seems obvious that affection is good for a marriage/relationship, but this one’s important to do even when you’re not feeling it. In other words, the intent didn’t matter—just the touch.
- Put away your phone
We know too much screen time can be detrimental for kids, so it makes sense that too much tech time takes away from our marriage/relationships too.
- Imagine your fight is being moderated by an outside observer
Picture what a therapist would say if she were listening in on your fight.
- Jump to good conclusions
Spouse running late? Don’t get angry before you get the full story.
Did your partner forget to pick up milk on the way home? Or neglect to answer your third text message? Unhappy couples attribute the error to a permanent flaw in their partner’s character (i.e. “He’s so forgetful”) while happy couples tend to chalk it up to circumstances (“He’s been so busy at work lately”). A little generous thinking goes a long way.
- Keep a gratitude journal
Because writing it down is the best way to remember.
Once a week, make a list of all the ways your partner has made a solid contribution to your marriage/relationship, and check it twice. Those who praise their partners feel more significantly more committed, and more grateful for their spouse.
- Rejoice in your partner’s wins, big or small
A simple, “Good job, sweetie” goes a long way.
The next time your spouse brags about the work presentation he totally nailed, give him a huge high-five and sincere praise. Wouldn’t you like praise when you have tackled difficult tasks or accomplished one of your goals?
- Schedule sex
Let the good times roll.
Penciling in intimacy sounds to me as sexy as scheduling a dentist appointment, but if you are challenged to make time to make love, then desperate times call for desperate measures. Simply put, intimacy is important in terms of overall satisfaction. So just do it!
- Make date night a priority
Keep the spark alive.
We get it. Good babysitters are expensive and so are tickets to the movies nowadays. But getting out of the house and having fun together is crucial for the health of your marriage and relationship. So go forth and frolic (at least once a month), moms!
The 3rd largest city in the USA was founded by a Black man. Jean Baptiste Pointe du Sable was first settler in Chicago, arriving from Europe in 1770s. He married a Native Potawatomi Indian woman (Kittahawa) & founded first trading post in area. The Town of Chicago was organized with a population of 350, August 1833. Born in Saint-Marc, Saint-Domingue (now Haiti), he built the first permanent settlement at the mouth of the river just east of present Michigan Avenue Bridge on the north bank.
Imagine living in a world ranging from hazy, clouded vision to that of total darkness for 30 years. Before 1985, that was the plight of those with cataracts who did not want to risk surgery with a mechanical grinder. Now imagine sitting in a doctor’s office without being able to see her as she explains that it may be possible to restore your vision.
As a noted Opthamologist and famous black inventor, Dr. Patricia Bath has dedicated her life to the treatment and prevention of visual impairments. Her personal belief that everyone has the “Right to Sight” led to her invention in 1985 of a specialized tool and procedure for the removal of cataracts. With the Laserphaco Probe and procedure, Dr. Bath increased the accuracy and results of cataract surgery, which had previously been performed manually with a mechanical grinder.
The difference between the old method and her new invention was the difference between the use of highly accurate laser technology and the somewhat subjective accuracy of a mechanical device. In use, the laser is inserted into a tiny incision on the eye; the laser then vaporizes the cataract and lens material, which is removed via the suction tubes. A replacement lens is then inserted on the eye.
With the Laserphaco Probe invention and the development of the procedure for its use, Dr. Bath helped restore the sight of several people who had been blinded by cataracts for up to 30 years.
Dr. Shirley Ann Jackson, a theoretical physicist and famous black inventor, has been credited with making many advances in science. She first developed an interest in science and mathematics during her childhood and conducted experiments and studies, such as those on the eating habits of honeybees. She followed this interest to the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) where she received a bachelor, and doctoral degree, all in the field of physics. In doing so she became the first African-American woman to earn a Ph.D. from MIT.
Jackson conducted successful experiments in theoretical physics and used her knowledge of physics to foster advances in telecommunications research while working at Bell Laboratories. Dr. Jackson conducted breakthrough basic scientific research that enabled others to invent the portable fax, touch tone telephone, solar cells, fiber optic cables, and the technology behind caller ID and call waiting.
Currently, Jackson is the president of Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, the oldest technological research university in the United States, and recently ranked by U.S. News and World Report as one of the nation’s top 50 universities. The mission of Rensselaer since its founding in 1824 has been to “apply science to the common purposes of life.” Dr. Jackson’s goal for Rensselaer is “to achieve prominence in the 21st century as a top-tier world-class technological research university, with global reach and global impact.”
Shonda Lynn Rhimes is an American television producer, screenwriter, and author. She is best known as the creator, head writer, executive producer – the show runner of the television medical drama Grey’s Anatomy, its spin-off Private Practice, and the political thriller series Scandal, all of which …now everyone in the entertainment industry, specifically the television industry, knows who Shonda Rhimes is. At only 46 years old, she has created her own television empire known as Shondaland.
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