It’s Time

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I remember the time my mom was not feeling well, she was having great abdominal pain and was sent to the hospital, where she ended up having to stay in the hospital as they needed to run a various set of test on her.  Once she was settled in and resting I had to leave and told her I would see her first thing in the morning. Well, the next morning as I was getting ready to go back to the hospital and check on her I received a call from the hospital telling me she had gone into a coma after having a cat scan. Needless to say, I was highly upset and rushed to be by her side. There had been people who have come out of a coma that had been in a coma for months and they say your hearing is the last to go, so I was hoping she could hear me as I was talking to her and even if her brain may have been dead as long as her heart was still beating I refused to allow them to unplug the machines.  So the hospital allowed me to stay in one of their private rooms so that I could be there on site and be with her whenever I felt like it. She passed away several days later.

I tell you this because I feel it is time. It’s time to start having quality conversations with loved ones again. Death is a real challenge and it tells us not to waste time. It tells us to make the time right now to tell each other that we love each other. It tells us to stop texting and tweeting every second and actually open the floodgates to real, long, heartfelt conversations with the people we love and care about. Relationships flourish when people are able to share their innermost feelings and thoughts about themselves and each other. To be fully heard by someone, in raw form, and to be adored anyhow, is what true love is. Making time for these deep connections and conversations is well worth it. It’s Time.

Embrace and Enjoy Your Individuality

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When we constantly seek approval it means we’re perpetually worried that others are forming negative judgments of us. This steals the fun, ingenuity, and spontaneity from our lives. Why not let 2020 be the year you flip the switch on this habit? If you’re lucky enough to have something that makes you different from everybody, else, don’t be ashamed and don’t change. Uniqueness is priceless. In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your remarkable self. And if they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same.

I find nothing more boring than holding a conversation with someone that agrees with me on every issue and never has an opinion or thought of their own. It’s like talking to myself. How on earth would we ever learn anything new if we didn’t have different thoughts, opinions, beliefs, backgrounds, and lifestyles to be shared among one another.

If people don’t get you, then so be it. It takes a lot of courage and self-love to stand alone, but it is worth it. Being unapologetically YOU is worth it!  Your real friends in life will eventually reveal themselves – they are the ones who took the time and effort to get to know you and love you just as you are. Bottom line: Don’t change so people will like you; be yourself and stay true to yourself and your beliefs the right people will love the real you.

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Honoring Martin Luther King Jr.

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“People fail to get along because they fear each other; they fear each other because they don’t know each other; they don’t know each other because they have not communicated with each other.” – Martin Luther King Jr.

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New Year, New Job Possibilities – 10 Questions You Should Absolutely Ask an Interviewer    

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Congratulations! You finally got a job interview scheduled which puts you closer to the job of your dreams. However, what should you do if you have some questions about the job? Can you ask during your interview? It is actually ok to ask during your interview since it helps you get to know the company […]

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A Simple Way to Keep Scammers at Bay In The New Year

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Fraudsters Hope, You Do This When Writing Checks in 2020

Here’s a simple way to keep scammers at bay in the New Year: Stop abbreviating the number “2020” when filling in the year on a personal check.

Authorities say abbreviating the year — as “20” — opens the door for fraudsters to manipulate the check for nefarious purposes.

To see how this works, imagine filling out a check with the following date: 1/25/20. A crook can easily add a couple more numerals that will change the year on the check to a date in the past or future:

  • 1/25/2001
  • 1/25/2027

Ira Rheingold, the executive director of the National Association of Consumer Advocates, tells USA Today that a scammer might manipulate a check to look like it’s from a previous year in an effort to show that you owed an obligation earlier than you really did — and thus attempt to extract more money from you.

Or, a thief could hold a check with a “20” abbreviation on it, and manipulate the check at a later date — such as in 2021 — to make the check active at that time, Rheingold says.

The best way to nip these potential problems in the bud is simply to write out the full year — 2020 — whenever you write a check this year. For example January 25, 2020.

Don’t stop at checks, though. USA Today quotes the Facebook page of the East Millinocket Police Department in Maine, which states that writing out the full year “is very sound advice and should be considered when signing any legal or professional document.”

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Having Peace of Mind (Quote)

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“If you want to experience peace of mind you have to close the windows and doors of your mind and not allow your worries and thoughts to disturb you.”

 

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No More Drama

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Turning Things Around in 2020

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When you look back on 2019, don’t think of the pain you felt. Think of the strength you gained, and appreciate how far you’ve come. You’ve been through a lot in the past year, but you’ve grown a lot too. Give yourself credit for your resilience, and then step forward again with grace.

Start doing something uncomfortable today that will move your life forward in 2020.

Being uncomfortable is a form of pain, but it isn’t a deep pain—it’s a shallow and necessary one. It’s that feeling you get when you’ve stepped outside of your comfort zone. The idea of exercising every morning, for example, brings discomfort—so we don’t do it. Eating green vegetables brings discomfort too. So does meditating, or focusing on a difficult task, or saying no to others. Of course, these are just examples, because all of us find discomfort in different things at different times, but you get a general idea.

The bottom line is most of us don’t want to be uncomfortable, so we subconsciously run from discomfort constantly. The problem with this is that, by running from discomfort, we are forced to participate in only the (easy) activities and (unexciting) opportunities within our comfort zones. And since our comfort zones are relativity small, we miss out on most of life’s greatest and healthiest experiences, and we get stuck in an endless debilitating cycle.

Are you tired of dealing with the same types of headaches and heartache over and over again?

Then it’s time to break the cycle, purge some bad habits, and embrace discomfort as you prepare for the year ahead. It’s time to learn from your mistakes rather than be conquered by them, and let your errors be of commission rather than omission.

Remember, you ultimately become what you repeatedly do. If your habits aren’t helping you, they’re hurting you. Which means it’s time for a change.

Here are 12 uncomfortable things to start doing for yourself in the year ahead…

  1. Build up your confidence and your progress, one day at a time. — Start each day of 2020 with the truth: It’s not too late. You aren’t behind. You’re where you need to be. Every day and step is necessary. Don’t judge yourself for how long your journey is taking. We all need our own time to travel our own distance. Give yourself credit, and then take the next step. The present moment is always the beginning of anything you want. Yet too often we waste our time waiting for the ideal path to appear. But it never does because we forget that paths are made by walking, not waiting. And no, you shouldn’t feel more confident before you take the next step. Taking the next step is what builds your confidence and ultimately moves your life forward.
  2. Track how you invest your energy and make productive shifts. – To attract better outcomes in life, you have to become better on the inside. Again, you can’t do the same things and expect change. You can’t blame someone else. Take full responsibility for the next step. Start transforming your mindset. Start upgrading your habits. Your life is 90% your choice! Seriously, don’t settle! Don’t exchange what you want most for what’s easiest at the moment. Study your agendas and routines closely. Figure out where your time goes, and remove needless distractions. It’s time to focus on what really matters.
  3. Allow yourself to be imperfectly human. – You can disappoint people and still be good enough. You can fail and still be smart, talented and capable of success. You can let people down and still be worthwhile and deserving of love and admiration. We all make mistakes sometimes. Take a deep breath. It’s OK to be human.
  4. Learn to be more present again. – Don’t avoid eye contact. Don’t hide behind gadgets. Smile often. Ask about people’s stories. Listen. You can’t connect with anyone, including yourself unless you are undistracted and present. And you can’t be either of the two when you’re Facebooking, Instagramming or Snapchatting your life away on your smartphone. You just can’t! If you are constantly attached to your smartphone and only listening with your ears as your eyes check for the next social update, you are ripping yourself off of actually experiencing real relationships and real life. The same is true for texting too. Yes, someday you will be slapped with the reality of a missed MEMORY being far more unsettling than a missed TEXT!
  5. Invest in your health. – There’s no getting around it: no matter how much you think you dislike exercise and healthy eating, both will make you feel better in the long run. If you don’t have your physical energy tuned up, then your mental energy (your focus), your emotional energy (your feelings), and your spiritual energy (your purpose) will all be negatively affected. In fact, did you know that recent studies conducted on people who were battling depression showed that consistent exercise combined with a healthy diet raises happiness levels just as much as Zoloft? Even better, six months later the people who participated in this exercise were less likely to relapse because they had a higher sense of self-accomplishment and self-worth.
  6. Be strict about making time for the right people. – At some point, when it comes to relationships, you’ll just want to be around the few people who make you smile for all the right reasons. So be intentional about spending more quality time with those who help you love yourself more. And remember that nothing you can give them will ever be more appreciated than your sincere, focused attention—your full presence. Truly being with them, and listening without a clock and without anticipation of the next event, is the highest form of compliment.
  7. Choose yourself, too. – You won’t always be a priority to others, and that’s why you have to be a top priority to yourself. Learn to respect yourself, take care of yourself, and become your own support system. Love yourself first and foremost every day, instead of simply loving the idea of other people loving you. Your needs matter. Start meeting them. Don’t wait for others to choose you—choose yourself! And remember that once your needs are met, you will be better equipped and capable of meeting the needs of those few people who matter most to you.
  8. Say “no” when you need to. – Saying “yes” to everything puts you on the fast track to a regretful existence. Feeling like you’re constantly busy and overwhelmed is typically the result of saying “yes” to too often. We all have obligations, but a healthy, effective pace can only be found by properly managing your yeses. So stop saying “yes” when you want to say “no.” You can’t always be agreeable; that’s how people and situations take advantage of you. Sometimes you have to set clear boundaries.
  9. Distance yourself from hurtful relationships. – One of the absolute hardest parts of loving someone: you have to give things up because of them. And sometimes you even have to give them up. Of course, it’s difficult to distance yourself from someone you care about (or cared about) without getting hurt in the process. Even if this person has hurt you a hundred times, you start thinking of all these “what ifs”—these “maybes” about the future. But that’s just the thing, there’s nothing concrete and reliable about these fantasies. The reality of this person’s consistent actions has disproven them. When someone shows you their true colors time and time again, it’s best to believe them and distance yourself.
  10. Find joy in less. – People who spend all their time trying to make money, spend all their money trying to make time. Don’t do this to yourself. Remind yourself that the richest human isn’t the one who has the most, but the one who needs less. Wealth is a mindset. Want less and appreciate more today. Challenge yourself to be less impressed by the things you own, and be more impressed by the life you live. You are incredibly fortunate to be experiencing this moment right here, right now. And the more you appreciate it, the better it will be.
  11. Directly confront the thoughts that worry you.A tiny part of your life is decided by completely uncontrollable circumstances, while the vast majority of your life is decided by how you respond to them. You cAN always choose a mindset that moves you forward. And doing so will help you change things from the inside out, and ultimately allow you to grow beyond the struggles you can’t control at any given moment. Here’s a powerful question that will support you with an attitude adjustment when you need it most: Who would you be, and what else would you see, if you removed the thought that’s worrying you?
  12. Start over again, and again. – No one wins a game of chess by only moving forward; sometimes you have to move backward to put yourself in a position to win. Think about how this relates to your life. Sometimes when it feels like you’re running into one dead end after another, it’s actually a sign that you’re not on the right path. Maybe you were meant to hang a left back when you took a right, and that’s perfectly fine. Life gradually teaches us that U-turns are allowed. So turn around when you must! There’s a big difference between giving up and starting over in the right direction. And there are three little words that can release you from your past mistakes and regrets, and get you back on track in the year ahead. These words are: “From now on…”

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2020 Vision

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Happy New Year! I hope you all had a restful, peaceful holiday season. I had a nice long break for the holidays and enjoyed my downtime.  And now it is all about getting back into focus for 2020.

I believe in 2020 more people are going to become more focused on what, where and who they want to be in life. It doesn’t matter what age one may be in order to do just that. It will be a year of having much clarity and intention, as well as getting rid of all those things, as well as people that no longer serve us in our lives. In order to stick to your goals, dreams and the path you want to be on, we can’t have anything or anyone pulling us away from remaining focused on what it is we are trying to accomplish.

Whether it be focusing on our all-around health, our career and personal goals, getting our finances in order, improving our relationships with others, getting rid of the old to make room for the new, or making changes to become better people to ourselves and others, this is the year to be much more intentional in getting things done. So, in January, I will be posting various posts that I hope will be of help to all of us (including myself) to get to where we want to be in our lives within 2020 and the years ahead.

For the past few months, I have been working on a personal passion project, and for me to continue to work on that project and this blog I will be posting on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays, and each blog post will be theme-driven for the month of which it resides. I don’t believe I’ve tried themes in full force within my eight years of blogging. It’s a new year, so why not try something new and see how it comes out. Right? 

You may have noticed I don’t mention anything about resolutions, and that is because I don’t believe in making them. It seems not many of us (myself included)  stick to our resolutions due to the pressure we put on ourselves to complete them all and we end up falling right back into our old ways only to feel guilty for not sticking with it at the end of the year. I believe in just doing the best you can with whatever goals you take on for the year. Sometimes life gets in the way, which can prevent us from completing all of our goals. I suggest writing down your goals in a journal or notebook and at the end of the year check off those things you were able to accomplish and move the remaining items to the following year. This way you are not putting pressure on yourself and your goals are not only more attainable, but you’re sure to have 2020 vision.

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Happy Holidays!

         chad-madden-179298-unsplashWow! Not only is it hard to believe Christmas is just one day away, but a New Year begins next week. I guess, the saying “Time flies when you’re having fun” is real. I love this time of year. It is a great time to sit back and reflect on one’s life by taking notes, make needed changes within oneself and set goals for the New Year ahead. 2019 was a busy year, but also a good year for me, and I hope it was the same for all of you. I had a chance to hang out with some of my closes friends whom I haven’t seen in awhile, as well as made a few new ones in the process. I also had a chance to hang out with my family whom I adore and enjoy being around. I am looking forward to 2020. I even like saying “2020”. There is something about it that has a nice little ring to it. Well, at least I think so. What do you think, do you like how it sounds and are you excited about seeing what the New Year has in store for you? 

I wanted to take the time to thank each and every one of you that has supported me all of these years, as well as those newcomers to my blog. I truly appreciate the positive comments and the virtual friendships I have acquired throughout 2019. Those of you that blog knows that keeping up a blog is hard work. It really takes a lot out of you, so much so, that, and I don’t know about you, but it has been times when I felt I can not do this much longer. But I am so grateful to have a platform where I can do what I truly love to do, which is to write, relate to and be of service to others. Not to mention I am not a quitter, so I just keep plugging away.

I will be taking a much-needed break. I am taking time to do some reflection, and some self-care (Me time), as well as hanging out with those close and dear to my heart. I will be returning with my first post of 2020 on January 6th.

I want to wish you all and those you love a very Happy Holidays, A Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Feliz Navidad, Happy Kwanzaa, and whatever Holiday I may have left out that you may celebrate. May 2020 be a year full of Wonder, Love, Peace, Prosperity and Good Health for you all!

And Cheryl said, “Peace out!” 🙂  

 

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Monday’s Mindset

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