Happy Friday!



Hang In There…


Being Thankful For What Didn’t Happen


With Thanksgiving coming upon us, and as we sit around the dinner table with our families and friends bowing our heads giving thanks for all we have. How about we switch things up this year and give thanks for what didn’t happen to us in 2017.

Why not be thankful for all those times you were saved from a fatal accident while driving, as a passenger or pedestrian on these dangerous roads? Give thanks you weren’t involved in some outlandish road rage incident. Give thanks for your children who made it safely to and from school on their school bus. Give thanks for your spouse or that who you love made it safely to their work place and back home safely to you and your family. And let’s not forget those college students who went off to a whole other state and world yet did not allow others to influence their morals, beliefs or mind.

Give thanks that your home was not invaded by intruders of the human kind as well as of the fiery type, which could have displaced you and your family. Give thanks that you had the chance to enjoy another summer taking trips, and enjoying life without any harm coming to you and yours.

I won’t lie, this has been one of the roughest years I have ever experienced, and I am sure many of you can totally agree. There has been so much turmoil and discard in our world this year. I am thankful, that although all of that was happening around me, I remained in tack and did not allow all the hatred and division among people effect my heart and remained steady and true to whom I am and what I believe in.

To those families that have lost a loved one, I know it is hard to feel thankful, when those we loved are no longer among the living, but we can be thankful for the time spent with those we may have lost and the love and joy they bought into our lives. We still have other family members among us, who love and need us and we must remember that every day of survival should be a day of Thanksgiving.



As We Grow Old…

“How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you was?”                                             – Satchel Paige


What Are You Hiding?

vulnerable 11

Let’s be real, most of us are sensitive, vulnerable, and unsure of ourselves more than we want others to know. Every single one of us has a sensitive side, and yet so many of us try to hide it. Why? Because sensitive people are too often perceived as weak or broken. But to feel intensely is not a weakness; it is the characteristic of a truly alive and compassionate human being. In reality it is not the sensitive person who is broken, it is society’s understanding that has become dysfunctional and emotionally incapacitated.  There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being “too emotional” or “ complicated” are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more thoughtful, caring, and humane world.

You should never be ashamed to let your feelings, smiles, and tears shine a light in this world. And don’t be afraid to feel a bit awkward and unsure of yourself in the process.

Have you ever cried at work? I have. I have cried not because I am or was weak, but because something that occurred that was out of my control be it a lie or a form of disrespect provoked me to cry instead of act out. How do I feel about that? I feel nothing about it, because I feel it helped the situation not to be what it could have been.

But, a harsh truth remains: The enemies we encounter in life, especially our own inner demons, use the things we’re insecure about against us. Which means we can’t hide forever? We have to emerge. We have to grow through our insecurities.

At some point we have to free ourselves and take our power back by being secure in who we are…sensitives, vulnerabilities, insecurities, and all.

So, instead of smiling to be polite, just cry when you need to. Instead of laughing when you are nervous or uncomfortable, just speak your truth. Instead of acting like everything is all right, proclaim it isn’t all right and talk about your feelings!

It’s time to liberate yourself.

Admit your truth.

Be vulnerable.

Be sensitive.

Be real.

And take that bold step forward.


This Weekend Give Thanks!


Native American Month

native american

What started at the turn of the century as an effort to gain a day of recognition for the significant contributions the first Americans made to the establishment and growth of the U.S., has resulted in a whole month being designated for that purpose.


How To Make Your Own DIY Beard Oil


Every man’s beard timeline is different. It takes some guys a week to go from clean-shaven to lumberjack. For others, it takes a month just to get past the stubble phase. But regardless of how long it takes you to grow a beard, one thing is for sure: Once your beard starts getting long, you have to keep it soft. This is where beard oil enters the picture.

But what is beard oil? Beard oil, as the name suggests, is oil specifically designed for nourishing and softening beards. A good quality beard oil has two specific ingredients: a carrier oil and essential oil. (In many cases, there are additional ingredients and vitamins, such as vitamin E, to provide additional nourishment.)

The essential oils serve two main purposes. First off, they add a scent to the oil that makes your beard smell better. Secondly, essential oils are believed to provide health benefits. For example, tea tree oil is a natural antiseptic, which means it cleans out your pores and reduces acne.

Beard oil can be purchased online or in the personal hygiene section of your local supermarket or health store. It typically comes in a small dropper bottle and, depending on the length of your beard, can last for months.

5 Beard Oil Recipes You Should Try

While there’s nothing wrong with commercial beard oil products, you don’t have to spend a lot to get the same benefits. Beard oil is actually super easy to make. With the right ingredients – and a little time – you can make any type of beard oil your heart desires for cheap. Here are a few recipes worth trying:

Coconut-Mint Beard Oil

This is a really awesome recipe. The coconut oil is a little thicker than some of the other carrier oils, which makes it great for guys with longer beards. It adds a shaping element to the oil that allows you to tame wild hairs. The peppermint oil gives it a nice refreshing smell that will leave you feeling clean.


Manly Blend Beard Oil

Want to smell like a man? This blend of sweet almond oil, cedarwood, and frankincense is pretty incredible. The smell isn’t so overpowering that you get tired of it, but does provide a nice aroma.


Summer Blend Beard Oil

Enjoying an afternoon lounging by the pool? A nice citrus blend of lemon and orange essential oils will give you a fresh smell that’s perfect for the warm weather.


Christmas Beard Oil

The holidays will be here before you know it – smell good and feel good with this Christmas oil blend that contains pine needle and cedarwood scents. The grape seed oil will leave you feeling especially merry.


Soothing Beard Oil

Do you suffer from dry, itchy skin when your beard gets longer? This soothing oil will help you maintain soft and healthy skin. The rosemary aids in circulation and eases puffiness and swelling, while the cedar wood has anti-fungal properties that help prevent dandruff and relieve itching.


Show Your Beard Some Love

You might not need beard oil when you only have stubble, but wait long enough and you’ll want some on hand. The longer your beard gets, the more unkempt it starts to look. Little stray hairs can make you look less like a classy gentleman and more like a bum.

As self-proclaimed beard expert Domen Hrovatin explains, “Using beard oil can help smooth out your beard and keep it under control. By keeping your beard hair healthy and pliable, you’ll decrease the need for combing and grooming in general. Make your beard work for you, not the other way around.”

As you look into beard oil, consider making your own. Not only is it cheaper, but it’s also healthier. After all, you’re the one who gets to choose the ingredients that go inside.


Movember (Men’s Health)

black-men-shave165ii beards “Movember” is an annual event involving the growing of moustaches and beards during the month of November to raise awareness of men’s health issues, such as prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and men’s suicide. The Movember Foundation runs the Movember charity event, housed at Movember.com. The goal of Movember is to “change the face of men’s health.”

By encouraging men (whom the charity refers to as “Mo Bros”) to get involved, Movember aims to increase early cancer detection, diagnosis and effective treatments, and ultimately reduce the number of preventable deaths. Besides annual check-ups, the Movember Foundation encourages men to be aware of family history of cancer and to adopt a healthier lifestyle. Below are some tips on caring for your beard taken from Webmd.com.

12 Easy Beard Care Tips

Growing a beard can be an expression of freedom, but it’s also a commitment. Beards don’t take care of themselves any more than your lawn or your nails. They need some upkeep.

Whether you’re just past the stubble stage or trying to tame a 2-foot mass, here are some beard care tips.

Grow It Better

  • Fight through the itch. This is the point where the faint-hearted give up. If you stick with it, it gets better after a few weeks, Poirier says.
  • Let it grow. Wait a few months before trying to shape a beard. That’s even if you plan to keep it short and close to the face in the long run, Poirier says. Shaping and trimming a beard too early is a common rookie mistake — a mistake that can take weeks or months to fix. “Let it get a little wild at first,” Poirier says. “Once you have about an inch or an inch and a half, then you can start shaping it.”
  • Know when to give up. It’s a hard truth, but not all guys can grow a beard. It’s just a matter of genetics, Poirier says. “If it’s been two or three months, and it’s still patchy and scraggly, it’s not going to get better,” Poirier says. “Let it go, shave it off, and move on.”

Good Grooming

Now you’ve got your beard. How do you take care of it?

  • Shampoo. Lots of guys don’t wash their beards — or if they do, they use the bar soap they’d use on their armpits. Bad idea. You’ll dry out your beard and the skin beneath. Instead, shampoo at least a few times a week, Poirier says. Use a moisturizing shampoo to prevent the hair from getting brittle.
  • Condition. Poirier recommends a thick, heavy-duty conditioner to keep your beard from getting too wiry. “Let the conditioner sit there,” Poirier says. Consider the leave-in kind that you don’t have to rinse out.
  • Use products (if you want). Whatever you rub into your beard is bound to get on your skin, too. Use products that are noncomedogenic, says Seemal R. Desai, MD, a dermatologist at the University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center. That means they won’t clog your pores.
  • Trim it. Even if you grow your beard long, Poirier recommends a trim every two months. It’s like getting rid of split ends in your hair. If you’re keeping it short, trim your beard every few weeks or so.
  • Have the right tools. Poirier says an electric trimmer is fine for the edge of your beard on your face. But for shaping the bulk, he recommends scissors and a comb. “If you’re using scissors, you’re not as likely to cut off too much by accident,” Poirier says.

Keep It Healthy

What else can help your beard look and feel good?

  • Eat a healthy diet. There are no special foods that will improve beard growth, Desai says. But he says a balanced, healthy diet is good in general for hair and skin. What about supplements? Some people say that biotin, a B complex vitamin, strengthens hair. However, there’s no strong evidence showing it helps. Always check with a doctor before starting any daily supplement.
  • Sleep . One study found that losing sleep could slow down beard growth. So if you want a healthy, full beard, take care to get your ZZZs.
  • Eat with care. How do you keep your lunch out of your beard? Poirier recommends taking small bites, wiping your face after each one. “Always ask for extra napkins at restaurants,” he says.

Of course, some of this beard-grooming advice might seem too fussy. Maybe the very idea of beard care contradicts your manly man ideal?






Monday’s Mindset


%d bloggers like this: