I remember the time my mom was not feeling well, she was having great abdominal pain and was sent to the hospital, where she ended up having to stay in the hospital as they needed to run a various set of test on her. Once she was settled in and resting I had to leave and told her I would see her first thing in the morning. Well, the next morning as I was getting ready to go back to the hospital and check on her I received a call from the hospital telling me she had gone into a coma after having a cat scan. Needless to say, I was highly upset and rushed to be by her side. There had been people who have come out of a coma that had been in a coma for months and they say your hearing is the last to go, so I was hoping she could hear me as I was talking to her and even if her brain may have been dead as long as her heart was still beating I refused to allow them to unplug the machines. So the hospital allowed me to stay in one of their private rooms so that I could be there on site and be with her whenever I felt like it. She passed away several days later.
I tell you this because I feel it is time. It’s time to start having quality conversations with loved ones again. Death is a real challenge and it tells us not to waste time. It tells us to make the time right now to tell each other that we love each other. It tells us to stop texting and tweeting every second and actually open the floodgates to real, long, heartfelt conversations with the people we love and care about. Relationships flourish when people are able to share their innermost feelings and thoughts about themselves and each other. To be fully heard by someone, in raw form, and to be adored anyhow, is what true love is. Making time for these deep connections and conversations is well worth it. It’s Time.
There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it hardly becomes any of us to talk about the rest of us. – Edward Wallis Hoch
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So many of us run into great adversity in our lives, yet we have to stop refusing to look past the fact that we are only failures if we commit to being one. There is always a decision to make in life in just about every moment except when we die.
Do you know that even after failure, there is still so much possibility in life that you are still able to go after? Like the caterpillar that creates a cocoon for itself may have thought that was how it would remain for life, and had no idea it would be transformed into a beautiful butterfly. We too can get stuck and think our lives are over, when in reality we are just facing temporary circumstances, and adversity that will most likely only last for a limited amount of time.
Just remember that even when misfortunes happen in your life, and you don’t get to where you want to be by the time you think you should get there, realize how blessed you are because you still have the chance to make your life as good as you want it to be, and as good as it should be.
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Disclaimer: the language in the story below may offend some, and I am sorry if it does, for it is not my intent.
I heard a story a woman told about an incident that took place while shopping. She was in line and these two young women behind her in line had only a couple of items, so she turned around and told them they can go ahead of her. The young women said, “Are you sure?” and the woman smiled and said, “Yes, I am not in a hurry” as they got in front of her in line she overheard one of the girls say, “I can’t stand happy bitches.” The woman said she was going to say something to the young woman but decided not to waste her breath for it was obvious the young woman was an unhappy person.
We can’t always see the pain someone feels. Not all scars show and not all wounds heal. Just because someone is acting out in a way that you neither like nor appreciate, doesn’t mean that you too must act out towards them. In fact, many times (such as the story above) it is best to treat those who treat you badly with kindness, and with a smile. Rude words are killed by kind words, and being kind may cause one to change their rude attitude, even if the change last only for a moment.
The way the world is turning, it seems as though more people are living their lives with a lot more stress, and more weight on their backs now more than ever before. Don’t be a part of the problem and add more stress to a person’s plate, instead be the person that opens their eyes. Show them that the way they treat people is contagious, and instead of spreading negativity in this tough world, a smile and a few kind words can go so much further.
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This past year has been such an awakening of what and who is important to me and my life going forward. I decided in 2021 I will be purging all things, people and places that no longer serve me. I will be focusing more on quality rather than quantity, although, I am very selective of who I allow in my circle. I am starting with the individuals in my life, then my closet and moving on to those places and things that are just a waste of my time. I will be focusing only on those things that make me happy. Starting with my keeping up my Christmas tree, lights and all because it makes me happy, besides it also goes with my décor.
I will be saying I love you to all those I have love for. Life is too short for regrets. I have never been that person that live everyday thinking about what could have been or said. If I love you, I express it. I always live my truth because I believe we don’t learn love; we are born of love. We only learn fear and other negative emotions. Therefore, I don’t fear sharing or showing love.
I will be surrendering to God (the universe) and letting go of those things I have no control over. I will be living in the present and being grateful for all I have. What is of quality to you, and will you be purging in 2021?
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“Hope is the pillar of the world” – KANURI proverb
Hope is what makes us look forward to tomorrow. Without it, our days have little meaning, and contemplating the rest of our life can depress us enormously.
African Americans need hope in a major way. Where do we get it? Within ourselves-by looking at our talents, our strengths, our ability to endure and to expect and demand better.
Our ancestors had hope in the face of great persecution. We must live up, to their example. Hope, we must recognize, is not a thing in limited supply, but a renewable resource.
On this day, I will take five minutes to thank the ancestors, God, and the millions of Africans and those of Africans descent worldwide and throughout history who have given me a firm foundation of hope and faith upon which to build my dreams. I pledge to keep my vision strong as a foundation for future generations.
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WHEW! I believe we all can agree that this has been quite a year, yet a year of revelations. It has forced many of us to look deeper at the world and those in it as well as take a deeper look within ourselves. It has been a very powerful year to say the least. A year we all and even our children will never forget.
However, despite all that has occurred this year, I feel there was some good that came out of 2020.
- We have become kinder, more caring, more helpful, and compassionate toward one another.
- It made us come to the realization that all of us are truly in this together, and that NO ONE is immune to this virus. which causes most of us to be more vigilant in wearing our mask, washing our hands, sanitizing ourselves and items we touch, and social distancing.
- The pandemic has caused us to stop and slow down our busy lives, to spend time with our families, get to sit down and have dinner and communicate with one another again and to realize what is and is not important to our lives.
- It has allowed us a chance to spend some alone time with ourselves and do some reflecting on what and who we will or will not be bringing into our energy in 2021.
- With this pandemic and even all the protesting has caused all of us to be able to learn to embrace change. It has forced change upon us all. Corporations, families, and even our children and their teachers have had to learn new ways of becoming more creative in the way they communicate and remain connected to one another. We’ve had to use Zoom and other apps to stay connected.
The parts of this pandemic that I feel were not good in 2020.
- Not being able to hug your loved ones and friends
- People not wearing masks and not following the protocol and putting themselves and others in harms way by not doing so.
- Social distancing.
- The virus causing deaths.
- Domestic violence increased.
- Businesses being loss.
- Unemployment at a sky high.
All though this has not been one of the best years. There were some good and bad things that has come out of this pandemic. We just need to have faith that things will get better in 2021. My hope for 2021 is that we all see each other as human beings and that we all learn to respect one another as people.
I appreciate all of you that read my blog posts and I wish everyone much love, love for one another as well as love for yourself. We are all beautiful people and we all have massive talent within ourselves that we are here to bring into this world. I know this pandemic has been a lot for most of us, but you must remain strong and have faith that you will get through this. I pray that the 2021 will be a much better year for us all.
Happy Holidays and I will see you in the New Year!
There is an intruder known as COVID-19 that has somehow forced its way into all our lives causing uncertainty, disruption, fear, loneliness, sickness, anxiety, exhaustion, and even death. Some may feel like there has been nothing to be thankful for in 2020. This I feel to not be true. Yes, we have gone through a rough and chaotic year but we must remain hopeful and have faith that in 2021 things will get better for us all.
I am giving thanks to the doctors, nurses, police, firefighters and all first respondents that has been in the front lines caring for and protecting others while risking their own lives.
I am giving thanks to all those considered essential workers who also put others before themselves by going out into the trenches each day to serve and do their jobs while putting their health at risk.
I am giving thanks to God for keeping me and my family close to each other, safe and protected through this uncertain time in our lives.
I give thanks for my friends who have been placed in my life for a reason and several seasons as they remain healthy and safe.
I am giving thanks for my employer for allowing me to continue to be employed by working from home.
I am also thankful for all of you who take the time to read my posts and I pray you and your families are healthy, safe and that you all continue to remain strong as we all fight off this intruder getting it out of our lives so that we can live our lives to the fullest as we were put here to do.
Although this Thanksgiving will be different for us all let us try to make the best of it by showing love, patience and appreciation towards one another.
Saturday, November 14th is the start of Diwali, which is the Indian festival of lights, usually lasting five days and celebrated during the Hindu Lunisolar month Kartika. One of the most popular festivals of Hinduism, Diwali symbolizes the spiritual “victory of light over darkness, good over evil, and knowledge over ignorance”.
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