10 Things You Should Do For Yourself At Least Once a Year

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  1. Write down a list of things you didn’t think you’d be able to get through and then did. We usually just forget about the issues we spent weeks and months and years panicking over and creating our lives around – because they resolve naturally, or end up only having been issues we made up. So the next time you’re absolutely heartbroken, remember the last breakup you were certain you wouldn’t get over. (You did. You will. This too shall pass.)
  2. Rearrange your space. Even if it’s just moving the TV or changing the orientation of your bed, a shift in the layout of the room you spend the most time in actually does change the way you perceive it. Rooms absolutely carry energy, and a lot of that is dependent on what’s in them, where and for what purpose.
  3. Purge. Your wardrobe, your desktop, your contacts list in your phone: get rid of everything you don’t need, anything or anyone that’s brought negativity or unnecessary anything into your life in the past year. Bring the clothes you haven’t worn/don’t want to an organization you care about (and be mindful of where you donate to in general.) When you get a new phone, only transfer the contacts you need and want to talk to each day, if you can. (Pro tip: keep a “maybe” pile for anything you’re uncertain about. Sleep on it, and then if that thing is lingering in your mind, reflect on why you still need it. You might learn something surprising about yourself and what you really want.)
  4. Take yourself out to dinner. Eating alone is, by contrast, often very calming (if you can get past the cultural notion that you should always eat with somebody, and I’m not saying you shouldn’t!) But eat dinner by yourself, at a restaurant, at least once.
  5. Write down a list of things you’re proud of. Things you’re really, sincerely proud of. Things you never thought you could accomplish and have. The kind of gratitude that comes with appreciating what you’ve done for yourself is unmatched. Let yourself keep surprising yourself. Make your own case for why you should trust yourself – then listen. And keep going.
  6. Maybe on your birthday, make it a point to review your year. Make time to pore over and reflect on everything that has happened — journals, photos, videos, posts on social media — all the parts that combine to show you how far you’ve come. Celebrate your progress and note where you still need work. It’s a beautiful thing to be self-aware enough to take your past and present into account when considering the future.
  7. Next time you’re out shopping, even if you went with the intention of getting something for yourself, buy a gift for somebody who really needs it. Something that is so them they’d cry just realizing that somebody knows them that well.
  8. Buy yourself a new set of your daily basics: makeup, white v-neck t-shirts, a French Press coffee maker, a more comfortable and daily bag, whatever you feel you are in need of. You will thank yourself for this.
  9. Make a list of the things you value, and then next to that, a list of ways you’re going to make those things priorities more often. If you care more about your best friend’s feelings than you do your temporary, petty frustration, prioritize that. If you care more about living peacefully with your roommate than fighting over another dirty dish, prioritize Decide what matters more to you, and how you’re going to resolve your issues in ways that don’t interfere with them. The way you get over anything is simply to start caring about something else more.
  10. Write down a list of things you’re proud of. Things you’re really, sincerely proud of. Things you never thought you could accomplish and have. The kind of gratitude that comes with appreciating what you’ve done for yourself is unmatched. Let yourself keep surprising yourself. Make your own case for why you should trust yourself – then listen. And keep going.

Monday’s Mindset

Enjoy your Coffee!


A group of alumni, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor. The conversation soon turned into complaints about the stress at work and in life. Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups – porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive looking, and some exquisite – he then tells them to help themselves to coffee.

Once the entire alumnus had their cup of coffee, the professor said, “If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken, leaving behind the plain and cheap cups. While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves, that is the source of your problems and stress.

Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee. In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink. What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups… And then you began eyeing each other’s cups.”

Now consider this: Life is the coffee; the jobs, money, and position in society are the cups. They are just tools to hold and contain life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live. Sometimes, by concentrating only on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee we have been provided.




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Monday’s Mindset – (Thinking)


People who exercise their minds all the time will certainly find it less strenuous than those who prefer living without thought. How many times have we watched the news and heard a story and believed everything that was reported without questioning any of it, only to learn later that it was reported incorrectly?  Without thinking or questioning things we have made it easy for certain media outlets to also provide us with what is called “FAKE NEWS.” Many of us growing up have been told by our parents “Don’t believe everything you hear.”  Yet, we continue to believe things we read and hear without questioning any of it to see not only if it is true or not, but to have an understanding of what was really meant.

What about those of us that commit crimes without questioning ourselves or thinking of the consequences? Or those of us who go to work every day wondering what’s the point of what we do, while never questioning why we do what we do, or how what we do connects with other’s jobs within the company to create the end goal?  It’s like reading a book or an article and not fully understanding what we’ve read because before going on to the next book or article we never stopped to question what we’ve first read.

I know there are those times when someone may tell you “Don’t put too much thought into it.” Or “You think too much.” Yet, we must never fail to stretch our minds. Without questioning, we do not progress. Without debate, we do not grow. Start thinking!


Happy Friday!

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Having Self-Determination


Supermodel Naomi Campbell is quoted in saying “I don’t see why we can’t be good in one thing and try to experiment with being good at another.”  And I totally agree with that statement.

Why is it that people have a habit of looking at us and seeing what we are now, and not what we could be?  Perhaps most people…parents, spouses, and friends included…want to be able to pin things down a certain way in order for them to feel comfortable. When we challenge their perceptions of us we throw them off balance.

When we allow other people’s opinions to restrict us, we are then limiting our options and our chances at self-fulfillment. It is possible to be good at one particular thing, but be totally interested and would like to be good at another. With all the new things that are bought to our attention on a daily basis, it would be impossible to only be interested and good at one thing and one thing only.

Only we know who we are. There is growth in experimentation. Let’s refuse to stagnate in order to please others.

Monday’s Mindset


Happy Friday!


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