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A List of Things We Can Give Up For Lent


Then Jesus was led up by the Spirit into the wilderness to be tempted by the devil. And he fasted forty days and forty nights, and afterward he was hungry. Matthew 4:1-2

Lent is a season of forty days, not counting Sundays, which begins on Ash Wednesday and ends on Holy Saturday. Lent comes from the Anglo Saxon word lencten, which means “spring.” The forty days represents the time Jesus spent in the wilderness, enduring the temptation of Satan and preparing to begin his ministry.

Although lent started on February 14th there is still time for us to find something that we can try to give up for the remaining days. I have listed below a few things that we can all try to give up for the remaining days of lent. I am sure you can think of things that we can all give up for lent.

  • Television
  • Gossip
  • Smoking
  • Drinking
  • Shopping
  • Sitting all day
  • Circular music
  • Negative thoughts
  • Self-destruction
  • Swearing
  • Coffee
  • Sugar
  • Salt
  • Meat
  • Microwaving and cook a meal
  • Take out
  • Facebook
  • Cell phones
  • Gaming
  • Partying
  • Anger
  • Complaining
  • Selfishness
  • Grudges
  • Hurtful words
  • The Internet
  • Instagram
  • Comparing
  • Wasting time
  • Nail biting
  • Yelling
  • Lying
  • Cheating
  • Fighting
  • Eating
  • Downing others
  • Jealousy






Here’s 20 Ways to Relax In 20 Minutes or Less


You’ve got 320 emails in that inbox, you’re already late for the next meeting and you haven’t even had a cup of coffee! Our lives are consumed by overloaded calendars, and sometimes, it feels like we can never catch a break. The to-do lists keep growing, and stress levels are at an all time high. That’s why when we’re feeling frazzled, it’s important to take a step back. Yes, this requires moving away from the screen! The good news is that you don’t need to set aside a lot of time to relax and de-stress—just a few minutes throughout the day will do the trick. Below, are 20 ways to relieve stress in 20 minutes or less, all of which were designed to create a sense of calm during the tough times ahead.

Give yourself a hand massage: A hand massage creates instant relaxation that calms a pounding heart. These are especially helpful for people who spend a lot of time in front of a keyboard. Hands carry a lot of tension, so relieving these stress points will do your body good. Apply lotion, start kneading the base of the muscle (near the thumb) and it will ease tension in the shoulders, neck and scalp.

Drip cold water on your wrist: We’re willing to bet that you didn’t know this trick! Try dripping cold water on your wrists and behind your earlobes. These are sensitive areas and cooling them will send a feeling of relaxation throughout your body.

Get outside: Oh, Mr. Sun! If it’s a sunny day, get outside for some vitamin D. Bright light is an effective treatment for people who suffer from anxiety and depression. This is an easy way to lift your spirits—and escape the office for a few minutes!

Listen to music: Yup, music can be an easy fix to that bad mood and it’s a great stress reliever. If you’re able to play music throughout the day, I highly encourage it. I personally enjoy listening to meditation music while I write—it’s so calming!

Eat dark chocolate: Easily, my favorite relaxation technique. Just a square of dark chocolate can calm your nerves. It also regulates your levels of cortisol and your metabolism. Remember: about 1.4 ounces or one square, does the trick. Don’t overdo it—everything in moderation.

Chew gum: My teachers in high school used to encourage the idea of chewing gum during tests. Just a few minutes of chewing can actually reduce anxiety and lower cortisol levels.

Watch something funny: A good laugh is a great relaxation technique. It increases your oxygen intake, stimulates your heart and boosts endorphins. YouTube’s #PopularOnYouTube section usually highlights the funniest videos of the day—making it the perfect source for your laughter fix!

Yoga: There are many yoga techniques that are known for relieving stress. Bonus: Try doing a few of these in the sunshine. The best part is that they just take a few minutes.

Write it down: When you’re feeling stressed or anxious, try jotting down a few things you’re grateful for. It’s a great relaxation technique, but it also trains your brain to feel optimism in times of chaos. When we’re stressed, our brains immediately focus on everything that is going wrong, which makes it impossible to unwind. There are plenty of things to be grateful for—we just have to dig a little deeper to find them in times of stress.

Play: Just because we’re adults, we do not have to stop playing. On a nice day grab a co-worker and throw a Frisbee around midday, or hop on a swing set in the park. These are great examples of instant stress relievers. Just let loose and have some fun!

Take a walk through the grass: Taking your shoes off and walking barefoot in the grass is a quick way to relieve anxiety. Your feet are extra sensitive and contain reflexology points, so walking through grass will create an instant sensation in other areas of the body, too. It also brings back a sense of nostalgia—remembering running around barefoot when you were a kid? Those were the good old days!

Take a catnap: This may not be an option for everyone, but taking a short nap can feel like a mini vacation. Remember: Anything over 30 minutes will take you into a deep sleep, making you groggy and less focused when you wake. Try taking a 20-minute nap instead. This is the perfect amount of time to boost productivity and to sharpen the brain for those afternoon meetings.

Take a breath: When we’re stressed, our breaths get shorter, and shortness of breath sends panic signals to the brain. Try to lengthen your breathing by taking a deep inhale in for five seconds, holding it for three seconds, and releasing it for another five seconds. Try doing this multiple times (in a quiet place, if possible). Slow, deep breaths will bring you back to the present.

Make a list: It’s hard to unwind when our thoughts keep returning to endless to-do lists. Try to get a clear strategy for the day. What do you need to tackle first? Prioritize and block out your day. Don’t forget to create some time for you throughout your day as well.

Drink green tea: Green tea is a great source of L-thiamine, an amino acid that can actually relieve anger. It’s also calming to sip and smell, and boosts energy levels.

Count backward: Kindergarten, is that you? When worries are at an all-time high, try slowly counting to 10, and then back again. This trick will help bring you back to the present moment.

Close your eyes: Take a quick break from the day and rest your eyes—this is another great one to do outdoors! It’s a simple and easy trick to regain focus and calm.

Visualize your happy place: Make yourself comfortable (outside, in your office—wherever!) and try to paint a peaceful scene, such as crashing waves on the beach, your favorite vacation house or the sound of your baby’s giggles. This exercise is a great way to get back to center. The power of guided imagery is a grand one! Try it out for yourself, and let us know where your happy place is.

Turn off your technology: Turn your cell phone off for 30 minutes each day. Cell phones stress us out, and raise our blood pressure—we just don’t realize it! It’s extremely important to spend some time away from technology throughout the day. Come on—we know that you can do it.

Be alone: Just a few minutes of alone time each day can help you collect your thoughts and clear your head. Take a five-minute walk around a park (no cell phone allowed), and let your mind roam.

















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Become A Rebel And Like Yourself!

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Have a Loving Friday!

Love’s Theme – Barry White

10 Love Hacks to Give Your Relationship/Marriage Some Much-Needed TLC


Think of these as tune-ups for your most important relationship.

It’s not always easy to be happy as they seem, but it’s definitely worth the effort.

If you’re a busy working mom married to a busy working dad (or mom), it’s a sad fact that your relationship tends to take a backseat to, well, everything. The kids, your careers, your friends. Too often we take our spouses for granted.

Not to mention, relationships are just plain hard. Just like home renovation, repairing underlying structural problems requires long hours and major work. You can also give your relationship a little TLC with minor touch-ups—a quick coat of paint, if you will. The love hacks below are just that: simple and easy ways to improve your bond and give your marriage/relationship the love it needs to go the distance.

  1. Listen up—and respond

The next time your spouse asks you to tune in to his favorite new song, grab an earbud and join in the fun.

Sounds simple, right? But it’s actually a lot harder—and more necessary—than it seems. Remember the last time your partner went off on a long tangent about the latest gaming system? Did you say, “Uh-huh, babe,” and then continue shopping on Amazon? You’ve got to give a little to get a lot.

  1. Get more sleep

It’s not just good for your physical health—it helps heal your marriage/relationship too.

  1. Hold hands

Even when it’s hard.

Sure, it seems obvious that affection is good for a marriage/relationship, but this one’s important to do even when you’re not feeling it. In other words, the intent didn’t matter—just the touch.

  1. Put away your phone

 We know too much screen time can be detrimental for kids, so it makes sense that too much tech time takes away from our marriage/relationships too.

  1. Imagine your fight is being moderated by an outside observer

Picture what a therapist would say if she were listening in on your fight.

  1. Jump to good conclusions

Spouse running late? Don’t get angry before you get the full story.

Did your partner forget to pick up milk on the way home? Or neglect to answer your third text message? Unhappy couples attribute the error to a permanent flaw in their partner’s character (i.e. “He’s so forgetful”) while happy couples tend to chalk it up to circumstances (“He’s been so busy at work lately”). A little generous thinking goes a long way.

  1. Keep a gratitude journal

Because writing it down is the best way to remember.

Once a week, make a list of all the ways your partner has made a solid contribution to your marriage/relationship, and check it twice. Those who praise their partners feel more significantly more committed, and more grateful for their spouse.

  1. Rejoice in your partner’s wins, big or small

A simple, “Good job, sweetie” goes a long way.

The next time your spouse brags about the work presentation he totally nailed, give him a huge high-five and sincere praise. Wouldn’t you like praise when you have tackled difficult tasks or accomplished one of your goals?

  1. Schedule sex

Let the good times roll.

Penciling in intimacy sounds to me as sexy as scheduling a dentist appointment, but if you are challenged to make time to make love, then desperate times call for desperate measures. Simply put, intimacy is important in terms of overall satisfaction. So just do it!

  1. Make date night a priority

Keep the spark alive.

We get it. Good babysitters are expensive and so are tickets to the movies nowadays. But getting out of the house and having fun together is crucial for the health of your marriage and relationship. So go forth and frolic (at least once a month), moms!


Honoring Black History Month

Black historyThe 3rd largest city in the USA was founded by a Black man. Jean Baptiste Pointe du Sable was first settler in Chicago, arriving from Europe in 1770s. He married a Native Potawatomi Indian woman (Kittahawa) & founded first trading post in area. The Town of Chicago was organized with a population of 350, August 1833. Born in Saint-Marc, Saint-Domingue (now Haiti), he built the first permanent settlement at the mouth of the river just east of present Michigan Avenue Bridge on the north bank.

black history 2Imagine living in a world ranging from hazy, clouded vision to that of total darkness for 30 years. Before 1985, that was the plight of those with cataracts who did not want to risk surgery with a mechanical grinder. Now imagine sitting in a doctor’s office without being able to see her as she explains that it may be possible to restore your vision. 

As a noted Opthamologist and famous black inventor, Dr. Patricia Bath has dedicated her life to the treatment and prevention of visual impairments. Her personal belief that everyone has the “Right to Sight” led to her invention in 1985 of a specialized tool and procedure for the removal of cataracts. With the Laserphaco Probe and procedure, Dr. Bath increased the accuracy and results of cataract surgery, which had previously been performed manually with a mechanical grinder.

The difference between the old method and her new invention was the difference between the use of highly accurate laser technology and the somewhat subjective accuracy of a mechanical device. In use, the laser is inserted into a tiny incision on the eye; the laser then vaporizes the cataract and lens material, which is removed via the suction tubes. A replacement lens is then inserted on the eye.

With the Laserphaco Probe invention and the development of the procedure for its use, Dr. Bath helped restore the sight of several people who had been blinded by cataracts for up to 30 years.

black history 3Dr. Shirley Ann Jackson, a theoretical physicist and famous black inventor, has been credited with making many advances in science. She first developed an interest in science and mathematics during her childhood and conducted experiments and studies, such as those on the eating habits of honeybees. She followed this interest to the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) where she received a bachelor, and doctoral degree, all in the field of physics. In doing so she became the first African-American woman to earn a Ph.D. from MIT.

Jackson conducted successful experiments in theoretical physics and used her knowledge of physics to foster advances in telecommunications research while working at Bell Laboratories. Dr. Jackson conducted breakthrough basic scientific research that enabled others to invent the portable fax, touch tone telephone, solar cells, fiber optic cables, and the technology behind caller ID and call waiting.

Currently, Jackson is the president of Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, the oldest technological research university in the United States, and recently ranked by U.S. News and World Report as one of the nation’s top 50 universities. The mission of Rensselaer since its founding in 1824 has been to “apply science to the common purposes of life.” Dr. Jackson’s goal for Rensselaer is “to achieve prominence in the 21st century as a top-tier world-class technological research university, with global reach and global impact.”

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black history4Shonda Lynn Rhimes is an American television producer, screenwriter, and author. She is best known as the creator, head writer, executive producer – the show runner of the television medical drama Grey’s Anatomy, its spin-off Private Practice, and the political thriller series Scandal, all of which …now everyone in the entertainment industry, specifically the television industry, knows who Shonda Rhimes is. At only 46 years old, she has created her own television empire known as Shondaland.

Creator (3 Credits)

Scandal (TV Show)
Private Practice (TV Show)
Grey’s Anatomy (TV Show)

Executive Producer (11 Credits)

Still Star-Crossed (TV Show)
The Catch (TV Show)
America Divided (TV Show)
Toast (TV Show)
For The People (TV Show)
How to Get Away with Murder (TV Show)
Scandal (TV Show)
Off the Map (TV Show)
Private Practice (TV Show)
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Happy Friday!


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