Who Are They?
‘To regret one’s own experiences is to arrest one’s own development.’ — Oscar Wilde
Do you know many of us live our lives based on whatever they say? They say you must drive a certain car, live a certain lifestyle or wear certain designer labels to be considered someone of importance. They say you’re too short, too tall. They say you’re not thin enough. They say you are not professional if you wear your natural hair to work. They say you’re not pretty enough. They say the only way you can become successful in life is by going to college. They say you must act or look a certain way to fit in. And of course, we all know they tell you whether you can wear white after Labor Day. Who are THEY? Do they, even know who they are?
Stop listening to what they say and take control of your life. Start believing in yourself and your worth. You have to believe in yourself, because if you don’t, who will? They won’t that’s for sure. You are not what happens to you, you are how you handle what happens.
If there are people in your life that are bringing you down and are not contributing any positivity, then they need to keep it moving. If you have people you call friends, that never have an encouraging word and every conversation is always about their goals, their dreams, their desires, always about them without any mention of you, then you need to get some new friends. They obviously, don’t’ know your worth. However, I want you to make this the year they find out.
Yes, you may be going through some things, and there will be circumstances in your life, that may affect you in some way, but you can’t allow your circumstances to define whom you are because circumstances are not a factor that determines who you are. You should not allow any circumstance or condition you may come across to stick with you. You may think that your environment or a situation you may be facing can change who you really are, but it can’t. It doesn’t matter what they think of you and you can’t allow yourself to believe that what happens to you, is the truth about you. You must raise above all the negativity and self-doubt and show them and yourself how strong you are, how brave you are, how beautiful you are and how you are a force to be reckoned with.
So, let 2013 be the year you start showing yourself love, respect and much care, because no one knows what you need more than you do. You are the only one responsible for your happiness. No one can put you down or disrespect you, unless you allow them to do so. So, the next time someone says, “They say” turn around and with a big grin on your face ask them “Who are they?”