Heard Any Good Stories Lately?
“If you do not tell the truth about yourself you cannot tell it about other people.” ~Virginia Woolf
Henry and his girlfriend of seven years have broken up. They have both agreed to part ways. Henry is a good guy. He doesn’t drink, smoke or go to clubs and he will make sure you have all you need. Although, he is not the best of cooks, he is great at cleaning house. Henry’s only down fall is other women. Yup! Henry is a cheater, but so is Henry’s girlfriend Tara. Tara is a true extrovert, very out going, loves to party, flirt and have a good time. All of their friends always wondered how they stayed together this long. Now that they are parting ways both Henry and Tara are going around telling anyone willing to listen what happened in their relationship, but in their own versions of course.
Isn’t that how most of us do when we tell others stories about what happen to us? We don’t seem to tell the complete story do we? We don’t tell what we said, or what we did. We seem to only tell parts that make us look good. We might add a few things to finish up a hidden agenda. Maybe we tell it the way we wish things had happened. Maybe we’ll add a character, omit a character, place a character in a role they really didn’t play just to add a more dramatic effect to the story. Maybe we are just making up a story to hear ourselves talk. Maybe we are telling the story the way we see it or so others will believe us. Maybe we are just telling the story because we really don’t have anything else to say.
Our lives are a lot like stories. They have a beginning, middle and an end. One part leads to another part and each character in your story plays a significant role. Where ever you may be in your life’s story, you have no idea what’s coming next. You have no clue to what character is coming into your life story next and you have no idea how the next event in your life will unfold. So, when you don’t tell the whole story, when you make changes to what really happened or when you start taking people out of the story that helped make the story (your life) what it is, then you are not getting the lesson that your life story could be teaching you. This means that however you choose to continue telling your story will determine whether you remain stuck in your same way of telling stories or you’ll finally get it.
Maybe you haven’t been telling your stories the way they really occurred, but as you go forward in life how about you take a look at the way you have been behaving in the past and turn over a new leaf. You can start by making sure the stories you tell going forward are the true reflections of what really happened.