Hey! That’s Not What I Said
You ever notice that when you are talking to some people they only hear what they want to hear instead of what is really being said. They are the type to either add meaning or diminishes the value of what is being said based upon who is saying it. That type of behavior can be very annoying and frustrating to those trying to communicate with them.
People that hears only what they want to hear usually misses the point of what is being said, because they are so busy misinterpreting the true meaning and making up things that makes them feel more comfortable with what is being said and who is saying it. Don’t you even think of challenging them on their interpretation of what was said, because then they really get upset about things they heard that were never said.
It is very hard to speak to someone who only hears what they want to hear, because they seem to get defensive, and feel they are being picked on, blamed or worse belittled. This would make it even harder to speak with them if the issue is important.
Here is a good way to look at it…have you ever attended a class that teaches you: how to read someone’s body language, read someone’s mind, how to carefully listen to the tone of their voice, pay attention to their hand gestures, watch how fast or slow someone eyeballs move, look at how someone tilts their head?
Most likely, a person that hears only what they want to hear took that class and uses the advice of the speaker to base the way they communicate. This is because those who hear what they want to hear can only hear certain people speak, because they base what they hear on the integrity and the intelligence of what a certain speaker has taught, which gives them good reason to blame what they do or don’t do on someone else. They will be quick to say it is not their fault! When it is because they did not hear what was being said.
Maybe you are one of those people who hear only what you want to hear instead of what is really being said. Why not try a different way of communicating, which is to not downsize the value of what is being said to you or not adding to the words to make them sound the way you want them to, because of who you’re speaking with. We all deserve to be listened to and we all deserve to be heard correctly.