“When you can look a thing dead in the eye, acknowledge that it exists, call it exactly what it is, and decide what role it will take in your life then, my Beloved, you have taken the first step toward your freedom.” ― Iyanla Vanzant
You can learn a lot from others. I am always amazed at the information I can receive just by observing others, as well as others behavior. For example, I take public transportation to work and back home each day and believe me it is always an interesting ride. Well, one afternoon while taking a half day of work and waiting on a bus to my destination, there was this young girl and her little daughter with her waiting at the bus stop as well. I noticed the young girl was on the phone chit chatting it up as her daughter just stood by with the saddest look on her small precious face. The little girl had to be no more than four years old.
Soon my bus arrived and the young girl and her daughter proceeded to get on the same bus as me. However, what really bothered me was that as they were getting on the bus, the young girl with her phone still attached to her ear was cursing and talking really nasty about her little daughter to whomever was on the other end of the phone. She was stating things like she will not be getting anything for Christmas and how the daughter gets on her nerves (I am being kind with my wording here, but I am sure you get the picture). Then she yelled at her to sit her butt down on the seat as she paid the fare. I learned a lot from that young girl.
What I learned from that young girl that also helped me understand other young girls walking around with babies or attitudes as big as babies, is that they are angry. They aren’t really angry at their child or anyone particular (although, it may seem they are), no they are angry at the themselves for the mistake of believing that if they had a baby, the baby’s dad will stick around and be there for them. Now, they are alone bearing all the responsibilities of a single parent at such a young age. All their hopes and dreams are no longer in their vision, not because their hopes and dreams have vanished, but because they are not living their lives positively, so they can no longer see the forest for the trees.
We bring into our lives what we put out. Yes, life gets hard, but that is a part of life’s lesson to us all. It‘s the hard times and adversity we face that allows us to have faith and hope for better days. It is also, what gives us the strength to make it through those hard times and the adversity. When we have to face the reality of our lives and decide if we want to live positively or in a state of constant despair, that is when we have to start to pull up our boot straps and keep moving. We can’t expect anything wonderful or good to ever happen in our lives, if we are always looking at life from a negative view.
When things get tough how many times have you said “Why me?” Well, sometimes we cause our own misery in our lives. We are so busy chasing the things we want instead of the things we really need in our lives, be it people or things. So, we are placed with tough times in order for us to strengthen our faith that things will eventually, work out for the best. So, you see sometimes there has to be some road blocks placed in front of us to snap us back to reality. Something to make us have not just faith in God (if you believe), but faith in ourselves to do what would be in the best interest for our lives. Yes, life is one big test and like any test, we try to prepare for a great outcome. Yes, we will make some mistakes, but we can’t beat ourselves up about the mistakes made. Those mistakes are good for us to learn from and to help with our growth and our will to live positively.
May we all live positively in 2013.