Time We Stop Pretending
Why is it we like to pretend that everything is OK when it isn’t? There is no shame in feeling overwhelmed or feeling like giving up. There really is no shame in it. We are not machines and if we were, there will still be times when we will need to stop for some type of maintenance at some point.
You should not feel ashamed to admit you are exhausted, a little doubtful or maybe feeling low. It is the natural part of being human. Yet, the fact that you are aware of those feelings is the eye opener that means you are capable of turning things around. It is quite ok to fall apart for a little bit. Shoot! With all the things going on in the world and in our lives it can cause one to fall apart for a second. So, there is no need for you to feel you need to pretend to be strong, and prove that everything is just dandy.
You should not be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – shedding tears is healthy. Sometimes I find that after watching the news and hearing so much ugliness, that I have to take some time to pull myself together. Which is one reason I only watch the news for the weather report, which I find can also be depressing if I allow it to affect me.
The reality of it all is that not every day, week, month or year is going to be great. It is how we deal with those not so great times that helps give us the strength we need to get through. I believe in God and if you don’t that is your prerogative. But, when I feel down and need to cry that is just what I do. I go into my quite space and I have a good cry as I talk with God. I come out feeling so much better, because most of things I get down about are things I have no control over anyway, so I leave it all in God’s hands.
However by letting others in when you are in a dark place helps. It’s not that they will always be able to pull you of the dark place you’re in, but that light that spills in when they enter will at least show you which way the door is. You may start to see things differently and are able to deal with them a lot better, even if only for a little while, but you have to remain hopeful that things will get better. Because in all honesty, it’s time we stop pretending.