What others think about you is not Important

what others think 1“If I worried about other women, I’d be just like them another- worried woman”

Why is it that we seem to allow others to make us feel inadequate? We are so concerned about what others think about the way we look, the way we dress, what type of car we drive, what we do for a living, how big our homes are, which town we live in, which schools we attended, how many degrees we have, what schools our children attend, what sports our children play and our children’s appearance. I could go on and on, but I shall digress for now.

Many of us have so much to be grateful for and yet, we are still unhappy with our lives. We are so busy trying to impress others rather than live our lives and enjoy all the wonderful blessings we have. We walk around pretending to be what and who we aren’t, just to get validation from those who frankly, don’t do a thing to enrich our lives at all. Yet, we work ourselves into terrible health or death just to say we caught up with the Joneses.

Have you ever noticed that those with the most going for them have the lowest self-esteem? They are trying so hard to get validation from someone or someplace. Maybe as children they weren’t praised enough or given enough attention. Or, maybe they’ve been rejected by someone they liked and so to compensate for what they didn’t get as a child or from one they admired, they have to try and prove how great they are in their adult life in order to earn that attention or validation that they so desperately yearn. It’s pretty sad really…and yet, another way of how we allow others to make us feel inadequate.

Well, if this resonates with you in some way, and you really want to be happy again or to begin to be happy, then stop being afraid of being yourself! Try being the real you, the you without the makeup, the designer clothes, the red bottom shoes, the showy diplomas hanging on the wall, the luxury car, the gigantic house, the title after your name. Go back to that time when you were the happy carefree younger you. You who had dreams higher than the moon and didn’t care about what others thought of your dreams. You who had enough self confidence to know there are plenty of fish in the sea. You who at one time really liked who you are and what you were about. Stop thinking about what others think of you. Start being more concerned about what you think of you, because at the end of the day…IT IS NOT IMPORTANT!



  1. Your tiger quote at the beginning made me laugh out loud. Well written post!! 🙂

    • Thank you! I too thought it to be rather funny. 🙂 I appreciate you reading my blog.

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