Dear Mothers


Your children’s failures are not your failures. For some reason, mothers believe everything the children do is a reflection on their motherhood. A mother can be totally devoted, always present, giving her very best, and have a child go totally astray. Children make choices. Children make decisions. Children can and do mess up. Remember when you were a child? But when children do mess up, no amount of yelling, threats, or motherly guilt will change what has happened. The best you can do is support and assist them in working through whatever it is.

Our children come “through” us and into life to learn their lessons and have the experiences they need in order to find their true identity. There is no manual for motherhood or any formal training, so whatever we do, and however we do it, is the best we have to offer. Our jobs as mothers is to guide, support, nurture, teach and lay  the foundation for them to stand on their own. Yes, sometimes we miss the mark. And sometimes we get caught up in our own lessons, messes and experiences. And sometimes we give the best of what we have and who we are, and they still fail. It’s all okay. Know that the same God who watches you watches your children. Know that no matter what, your children are equipped to fall, get up, and fall again. We all are. But if and when they do, your job is to Breathe! Pray! And have Faith!


  1. Thank you, Cheryl, for this post. You have summarised succinctly what motherhood is. It should come as consolation to a lot of mothers. I’m certainly one of them, so thank you again.

    • Hi there beautiful lady! Always, glad to hear from you. I am glad you enjoyed this particular post. I agree a lot of us mothers feel everything is our fault, when it really is not. Glad you realized that. 🙂 I am sure like all of us you have done the best you can. May God continue to bless you! P.S. I can’t wait to go read more of your lovely poems. 🙂

      • Thank you again, Cheryl, for your beautiful thoughts. May God bless you too. 🙂

  2. Reblogged this on Irina's Poetry Corner and commented:
    Inspirational post about motherhood! I warmly recommended it to all mothers.

    • Thanks for the reblog Irina. It is appreciated!

      • You’re most welcome, Cheryl.

  3. A perfect post for mothers everywhere. 😀

    • Glad you think so! 🙂 Also, glad you enjoyed it! 🙂

  4. I feel like the moment those sweet little spirits come into our lives we get into such a pattern of babying them, starting with making sure their delicate little heads don’t fall back as they gain the muscle control. Mine are only 2 and 3. When the band aids are visible, they want one, sometimes just for the fun of having one whether they fell or not 🙂 And sometimes when they fall on the playground and I am not near to heavily acknowledge it, they brush it off like it never happened.

    • 🙂 So true Rebecca. Glad you enjoyed that post!

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