Your children’s failures are not your failures. For some reason, mothers believe everything the children do is a reflection on their motherhood. A mother can be totally devoted, always present, giving her very best, and have a child go totally astray. Children make choices. Children make decisions. Children can and do mess up. Remember when you were a child? But when children do mess up, no amount of yelling, threats, or motherly guilt will change what has happened. The best you can do is support and assist them in working through whatever it is.
Our children come “through” us and into life to learn their lessons and have the experiences they need in order to find their true identity. There is no manual for motherhood or any formal training, so whatever we do, and however we do it, is the best we have to offer. Our jobs as mothers is to guide, support, nurture, teach and lay the foundation for them to stand on their own. Yes, sometimes we miss the mark. And sometimes we get caught up in our own lessons, messes and experiences. And sometimes we give the best of what we have and who we are, and they still fail. It’s all okay. Know that the same God who watches you watches your children. Know that no matter what, your children are equipped to fall, get up, and fall again. We all are. But if and when they do, your job is to Breathe! Pray! And have Faith!