The well-known playwright and poet Ntozake Shange once quoted, “Our society allows people to be absolutely neurotic and totally out of touch with their feelings and everyone else’s feelings, and yet be very respectable.” If you truly think about what she is saying there is a whole lot of truth there. It’s sort of like going to your doctor’s office and there in the office are hanging and hangings of the various degrees they possess. You’re there because you aren’t feeling yourself and yet they totally dismiss what you are feeling, so much to the point, they start to make you doubt yourself or worse make you feel like maybe you’re going crazy. This type of behavior from a doctor is called not having a bedside manner. They are so busy trying to impress you with all their various degrees that your feelings are not being a factor.
Our professional accomplishments are one thing, but we often take them to be the whole thing or the only thing that matters. Isn’t there so much more to life? We shouldn’t focus so much on our careers and the prizes we have received, but as our achievements as human beings. We need to really take a look at the way we treat our family members, friends, those around us or even ourselves. Why not do something nice for a co-worker or loved one. I am sure there are those that have helped you in some way, along the way that you can call or write to say “thank you” for whatever they may have helped you with. Don’t just consume become a nurture and nourish so that you can become whole as a person. Only then will we gain inner respectability, which is a goal far worthier than all the window dressing you can collect.