Reinventing yourself shouldn’t be confined to a promise made on New Year’s Day and broken a month later. There is no timeline for you to reinvent yourself. You just need to take the time to reflect on the past, consider who you want to be in the future, and make the choice to be that person!
But how you ask?
If you’re like most, you’re wondering how,, you can become that better person. You might feel that you’re too old or too set in your ways, or you don’t have enough time or money or the will power.
But the truth is that none of those things are standing in your way.
If you’re willing to do the work, you can be anyone you wish to be. You can break that bad habit. You can change your appearance. You can alter how others perceive you. Self-change is limitless.
Below are a few ways you can reinvent yourself.
Decide Who You Want to Be
This is the first step. You can’t make any changes until you have a plan for who you want to be.
The thing to remember is that none of us are simply a fixed set of individuals. You’re not doomed to forever be the grumpy one or the unreliable one or the “loser”. You’re more than that.
Nor is your environment unchangeable. Things like jobs and houses and friends are all changeable if they’re destructive parts of your life.
To begin to find a direction, find your greatest strengths. Find out what brings you joy. Make a list of both and look for areas where the two lists intersect.
What are your goals? Write those out as well, and beneath them, write out what skills you’ll need to learn and what steps you’ll need to take in order to accomplish them.
Voila. You have the beginnings of a plan. Decide who you want to be, and the rest of the journey is much easier.
Change Your Style
Your style does a lot for you, and it’s a great place to reinvent yourself.
Your taste in fashion acts as a silent language, it’s constantly communicating about you to others—think of it as a slight part of your body language. Want to reinvent yourself? Feel like being perceived differently? Start changing your life by changing your wardrobe.
Not only does style affect how others see you, but it affects how you see yourself. Want to become a more confident person? Start dressing like one! Find clothing that emanates power and accessorize it to your tastes. Want to be elegant with a dash of retro flair? Watch some Audrey Hepburn.
Use your style to express yourself like never before, to release the inner you that has been begging to come out.
Don’t neglect personal style in your quest to reinvent yourself—that goes for you, too, men. Here, the simplest changes can bring about both a surprising boost in confidence and greater social life.
Change Your Mindset
Don’t let your mindset hold your back. You can reinvent the very way you think, too.
When we identify our bad habits, replace them with positive ones, and focus on maintaining those good habits, we shape our brains, and by extension, our minds.
Make New Friends
Because you spend more time at work than with your families, your peers have more of an influence on your development and potential than your family does. Choose them wisely.
If you’ve read the book “Machiavelli” a great book, which teaches you how to use people around you to gain the upper hand in life, or it can teach you how not to be, it all depends on how you absorbed it. Instead, be around people who constructively challenge you, who has the same interest as you, who bring you joy, who you can bring joy.
It also means avoiding those who cast negativity over your life, those who use you, who set consistently bad examples for you, and tend to pull you into their messes. It means avoiding those who don’t care about you, as well as those who shrug off your friendship.
You want to hang around those that can help you be better. For instance, if you have a hard time with self-control, hanging out with a disciplined friend can help correct that.
Be mindful of the new friends you choose. Don’t be afraid to pursue relationships with the people you admire rather than simply those who drift into your life. As in all things, be intentional, and you’ll succeed in reinventing yourself.
Improve Your Health
Properly caring for your body gives you the energy to pursue your dreams, and helps you avoid setbacks that can take you off the path to happiness.
This coming year, reinvent your body as you get into the best shape of your life.
To avoid burnout, start small. Take a 30-minute walk every day. Take the stairs at work. Give your dog a nice long walk.
Learn Something New
One of the best ways to reinvent yourself is to become an expert on something.
Learning something new can be as simple as picking up a musical instrument or learning a new language or studying your new car maintenance manual.
Reinventing yourself doesn’t have to be a dramatic shift. It can be a slow process, made up of small, quiet steps toward things that make you happier. Because that’s the goal! It isn’t so you can thrive on having “effectiveness,” or “power”. You know what makes you happy. Go after it! If you love expressing yourself through music, join a band. Do you love to create beautiful words? Learn to write poetry. Does how things work fascinate you? Go to school and study engineering.
Let this year be the year you do it! Never stop learning. That’s incredibly important. Remaining teachable allows us to constantly evolve throughout our lives. This type of mindset allows us to continue to reinvent ourselves all the time, always moving toward the better, the brighter, what makes you happy.
It’s not enough to simply plan. Get out there and do.
When you achieve your goals and are well on your way to becoming the person you wish to be, don’t stop there. Keep pushing yourself toward a better life year after year.
Anyone can make a promise to reinvent themselves, but only those willing to put in the effort will truly find themselves. You can start your journey with these tips, or do whatever it is you feel you need to do for yourself to make the changes you want to make that will make 2017 be the year to start to live the life you’ve always wanted. I am cheering for you!