Why It’s Okay To Be Single On Valentine’s Day
Valentine’s Day for some single people can feel like the worst day ever, but instead of beating yourself up because you’re not in a relationship, or saying things like “love sucks,” take the time to appreciate how amazing it is to celebrate time with yourself, your family, and your closest friends.
So on this Valentine’s Day in 2017, don’t feel sorry for yourself if no one is sending you flowers or taking you out to an expensive dinner. Being single rocks, and just in case you have trouble believing so, here are 10 benefits of being single that’ll have you saying, “I’m feelin’ myself.”
Getting to Know Yourself
Yes, this sounds like a cliche but it’s actually something you should do on a regular. You know your favorite color is purple and that you love chocolate chip ice cream, but do you really know yourself? When was the last time you accessed your hopes, dreams, and ambitions, and made sure they were all on point? Being single gives you a chance to reconnect with what matters to you.
Focusing on Your Passions
Whether it’s working out, working on your blog, or some other side project, focusing attention on what makes you happy is something that tends to be forgotten when we’re in a relationship. It’s important to take care of your mind, body, and soul, and there’s no better chance to do that than when you’re single. “You should take advantage of this time to focus on the things that interest you, and you alone.”
Being Single in 2017
Can you imagine being single in 1817? When practically everyone got married when they were still a teenager, there really wasn’t a culture of “just doing you.” That didn’t really become acceptable until the end of the last century, and you should embrace that. Being single now is seen as empowering — you no longer need someone else to complete you.
Focusing on Your Friendships
We all know how friends can mysteriously go MIA when they get in a serious relationship. So if you’re riding solo, take advantage of spending meaningful time with your pals. nurture friendships so that no matter what happens, or who comes along, you have an unbreakable foundation.
Being in Complete Control of Your Happiness
Some people put a lot of stock in being in a relationship and rely on it to make them happy. Of course having a girlfriend or boyfriend can add joy to your life, but no one else should be responsible for your mood and outlook on life. You shouldn’t fall into the trap of thinking you can’t be happy unless you’re in a relationship or comparing yourself to others who are in a relationship and seem happy. Don’t compare your insides to others outside. That mess needs to stop!
Finding Out Your Likes and Dislikes
Going on a few dates while you’re single is a way to figure out what you do and don’t like. Think of it like when you’re at a restaurant and you place your order, but before the waiter leaves the table you inform him/her what you want and don’t want in your order. It would be the same when choosing the qualities you like best in a partner. That way, when you do meet someone special you’ll know immediately whether or not they’re a match for you.
Everyone has that friend who is totally dependent on their partner being the in all to their happiness. Whenever anything goes wrong they are balling their eyes out. If their partner didn’t respond to their text fast enough or didn’t like the selfie they took, their whole world is suddenly falling apart. You are responsible for owning your emotions.
Being as Spontaneous as You Like
Weekend getaway with your friends? Why not. Movie of your choice on a Saturday afternoon? Sure. Having time to do what you like is incredibly special. It’s a great gift to have the time and space to nurture yourself in ways that make your heart happy.
Real talk. Valentine’s Day presents are just the beginning. Movie dates, birthdays, dinners, the list goes on. Being in a relationship can be expensive, so if you’re single, rejoice over the fact that every dollar you spend go toward you, or the people in your life that you’ve known the longest, i.e. family and friends.
Not having to share your food, get to pick the music in the car, not having to hang out with their friends, sit around in a face mask while watching as many of your favorite girly flicks as you like are all some great reasons to celebrate being single. Seriously, if you’re solo this Valentine’s Day, smile because who knows, next year you just might not be.