How To Write Your Child A Letter
I don’t know about you, but I love to receive hand-written letters or cards. It is something very meaningful to sit and read something someone wrote to you, and just for you expressing their feelings or sharing some news in their own words. Have you ever thought of writing a letter to your child or each of your children? When you write a letter to your child, it can be magical! It communicates love, pride, and commitment beyond the power of everyday spoken words. It is totally different than the small additional message we place inside a store-bought birthday card or a card given around the holidays. Each letter is a deep expression of your love and pride, combined with the hopes and dreams you have for their future. Here are 8 words you can use to help start you off.
“Love” – Of course, you want to tell your child how you feel! Even if “I love you” is something you say every day, the message is conveyed differently when the words are shared in writing. For example, you might say:
- Having you in my life has made my life so worthwhile!
- Being your parent has been one of the greatest gifts in my life.
- There’s nothing that could ever change how I feel about you.
“Notice” – When writing a letter to your child, try sharing what you’ve noticed recently about him or her. How have they grown? What positive characteristics do you see emerging? For example:
- The generosity your son or daughter has for his/her siblings
- The kindness your son or daughter shows her friends
- The maturity you’ve witnessed in how your child handles conflicts
“Enjoy” – Describe what you enjoy doing together. This will mean a lot to your child, and it will help put the letter into context when he or she reads it again in the years to come. For example:
- Playing games
- Cooking together
- Reading together
“Proud” – Be specific when you describe what makes you proud. This is something we all long to hear, and the words will nourish your child when he or she re-reads the letter years from now. For example, you might express pride in your child’s:
- Interpersonal relationships
- Academic progress and/or work ethic
- Athletic abilities and/or various talents
“Cherish” – In each letter to your child, share a few memories that mean a lot to you personally. Your stories will communicate truth in a way that’s more memorable to your child than any single compliment. For example, you might include:
- Memories of a shared vacation
- An observation you’ll never forget
- The memory of a time when you realized your child had grown in some way
“Hope” – In addition, take the time to share your highest hopes in your letter. For example, you might include:
- Your hopes for your child’s friendships
- Your hopes for your child’s own awareness of his or her talents
- Your hopes regarding his or her own dreams
“Believe” – This is an opportunity to share your confidence in your child, as well as the beliefs that continue to motivate you personally. For example, you might include the following when writing a letter to a child:
- Your own convictions about his or her future
- A Bible verse that speaks to this time in his or her life
- A quotation that has touched you personally
“Promise” – This word is a little tricky because there are definitely some promises you should never make to your kids. When used appropriately, though, “I promise” statements can convey dedication in a way that’s clear and full of meaning. For example:
- I promise to always love you, no matter what.
- I promise to listen to what you have to say.
- I promise to always consider your feelings and try to see things from your point of view.