18 Things To Do Because You’re Alive
Live someplace you’ve never been, where you know no one and no one knows you. Whether it’s across the state, across the country, or across the world, start over. Then start over again, and again. Immerse yourself in a new place, a new culture, a new way of life. Then see who you become when there are no expectations of who you’re supposed to be.
Fall in love
Fall in love with something or someone. Fall in love with a boy, a girl, your best friend, with your job, your favorite food, a hobby, workout routine. Fall in love with something. Feel that passion for something, anything, and feel it hard.
Force Yourself Out of Your Comfort Zone
The most remarkable life moments are the ones that make you uncomfortable. I recall my first time driving in the pouring rain at night from one town to another with my eldest son in the back seat. It was one of those moments that get your heart racing and your palms sweating. Force yourself into those situations and get out of your comfort zone. The moments that make you unsure – the moments you’ve never experienced before – are the ones that you’ll remember.
Work Hard, Play Harder
There is no such thing as a work/life balance. You need to create it. Take a lunch and read a book in a park, leave early to go to happy hour on a Tuesday. Take all your vacation days, put your email away, and keep work at work. If you let it take over your life it most definitely will. It’s up to you to create a life for yourself outside of your job.
Being alone is uncomfortable and scary – but it is also essential to your sanity. Whether you’re an introvert or extrovert, being alone gives you the time to think about yourself, your life and your decisions. It makes you acutely aware of the things happening around you and gives you an opportunity to take in your life – to realize who you are, where you are, and why you’re there. See a movie. Eat at a nice restaurant. Go to a bar and order a drink. Don’t hide behind your phone or rush through it. Let yourself be alone, observe the people around you, and be open to conversation.
Do Not Settle
Throughout life, you will feel spurts of loneliness, unhappiness, desperation, and thousands of other emotions relating to your imperfect job, nonexistent relationship, empty wallet or countless other perceived shortcomings. Through all of this, however, never, ever settle. Do not stay at a job you hate purely because it pays the bills – find something else. Do not stay with a guy who is not good enough purely because he’s convenient – find someone else. Settling is easy. But not settling is worth it.
Take Care of Your Body
This is the only one you’ve got and you don’t want it to deteriorate before its ready. Eat well, get enough sleep and exercise. Know what you are putting into and onto your body and make sure you keep it up and running for as long as you can.
You may say you can’t get those new boots, those great tickets that second drink, because you’re “poor.” But let’s face it, you’re probably reading this on your very own personal Mac, in warm clothes, on a comfy couch (or an uncomfortable office swivel chair). You’re not poor. It may feel like it when you have to hand over ⅔ of your monthly paycheck to a landlord who probably can’t even bother to fix your sink when you ask, but you’re not poor. An important part of life is realizing how fortunate you actually are. Volunteer. Serve food at a soup kitchen, help at-risk high schoolers prep for the SATs, play a sport with some kids. Put your life into perspective, and help others along the way.
Never say no to a first date. Even if you meet him on Tinder and he takes you to McDonald’s. You will miss invaluable experiences if you say no before you give it a try. This is not desperate. This is not sad. This is you, figuring out what you like and don’t like, which is a part of life. You never know what could come out of it – a boyfriend, a friend, a work connection. At the least, you’ll get a free meal, and at the most you’ll get a good story.
Getting your heart broken can be a good thing; it shows you what you’re capable of. If you can fall hard enough for someone that it hurts when you hit the ground, that’s a remarkable thing. So eat a pint of ice cream and let yourself cry, but then get up, get dressed and get over it.
Know the News
Know what is going on in the world around you. Just because a war, a riot, or a plane crash is not happening in your backyard, doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t know and care about it.
Explore What You Love
Everyone has passions but not everyone is lucky enough to work with those passions on a day to day basis. Life is made for exploration. Take a painting class, even if you can’t draw a stick figure. Join a running club, even if you have to stop after 3 blocks. Try new things and revisit the old. Figure out what you’re passionate about and never forget it. Sometimes five minutes of doing something you love can make up for 8 hours of doing something you hate.
Read books. Lots of books. They are there for a reason and they are not to be ignored. Pick up the reading habit. Get addicted to books. They introduce you to new worlds, take you to foreign places, and teach you about other cultures. They let you feel love and hate and everything in between. They’re the best learning tool you can possibly find and a great conversation starter. Never in your adult life will you wish you read fewer books.
Keep a Journal
Write about it all – the boy you kissed in the Park just as the streetlights came on, the date you wanted to leave the second you saw his sneakers at a formal event. The time your boss was in a bad mood and took it out on you. Write it all down and read it when you’re feeling nostalgic (or when you need a reminder of the fact that you survived it all).
Spend Money on Experiences
The saying “you only regret the things you don’t do” couldn’t be more accurate. Frugality is important, but so is living your life. Buy the concert tickets. Go to the expensive rooftop bar. Take a spontaneous weekend trip to a new city. You’re alive to do these things. In the end, it’s the experiences that matter. They make up the stories you’ll tell your kids. Looking back, you’ll be happy you went on that cross-country road trip, and you won’t even remember how you had to eat Ramen noodles for three months to pay for it.
Stay in Touch
People move, things change, and life go on. But don’t let miles or time ruin your relationships. Between texting, calling, tweeting, and Facebooking, you have no excuse to lose contact with someone. Make an effort and take the time. Don’t let a great friendship die because it’s no longer convenient.
Make a Bucket List
Sometimes the only way to accomplish something that you never thought you could do is by visualizing it – by making sure you know that it’s attainable and within reach. It keeps you motivated to try new things and see new places. And it ensures you’re always working toward some kind of bigger goal. So make a list and never stop adding to it.
Everyone has their awkward moments, and sometimes being awkward isn’t always charming like the television shows suggest. Being awkward means always having the perfect comeback a few seconds too late to say it. It means smiling at him without realizing he’s looking at the girl behind you. It means falling on the sidewalk because you’re distracted by a puppy, landing in horse poop (with no Prince Charming there to spontaneously catch you and ask you out) and having to wear that brown stain on your butt the entire walk home. Being awkward is, actually, rarely charming. Until you find the right person to be awkward with. So embrace your weird tendencies, your clumsiness, and your affliction for always having the wrong thing to say. It is what makes you, you.