Mitchell and Carmen had been seeing each other off and on for several years. They enjoyed each other’s company and had great times together. Mitchell had deep feelings for Carmen, but would never express those feelings, so he kept them suppressed deep inside and pretended to not care too much. Where Carmen constantly expressed to Mitchell how she felt about him. Eventually, they fell apart, due to the fact that Mitchell although was committed to Carmen would never express his feelings. He would never open up, and that drove Carmen crazy because she never truly knew where they stood with one another. So they broke up and went their separate ways. Carmen soon met a great guy and became engaged, while Mitchell met bone cancer and ended up very sick, and alone laying in his hospital bed wishing he had been more open, more vulnerable with Carmen, because then he would have someone there by his side who truly loved him. When Carmen found out from Mitchell’s family members how sick Mitchell was she headed out to visit him, but it was too late. All she could think about was how much she had loved him, and how hard he resisted that love, but at least he died knowing he was once loved.
Why is it we are afraid to say too much, to feel too deeply, to let people know what they mean to us? Love is vulnerability. Happiness is vulnerability. The risk of being vulnerable is the price of opening yourself up to love, beauty and possible opportunities. Being vulnerable is not about showing those parts of you which are polished; it’s about revealing the unpolished parts you would rather keep hidden form the world. It’s about looking out into the world with an honest, open heart and saying, “This is me! Take me or leave me!” It’s hard to let go and be vulnerable like that because the stakes are high. Since love and happiness are born out of our willingness to be vulnerable – to open up to something wonderful that could be taken away from us – when you hide from your vulnerability, you are automatically hiding from everything you truly desire. Let go and be vulnerable!