10 Things You Need to Stop Wasting Time On
I was reading an article which told a story about this woman who was in a terrible car accident along with her husband and 9 year old son. The woman was pinned under their 2000 pound car, but she stated that for a split second the happiest moment in her life was when she realized her husband and son were out of the vehicle.
It is near death moments such as this that forces us to acknowledge what’s truly important to us. In the woman’s case it was her husband and son. She then started mentioning how now her family spends a lot more time together, simply sharing stories, telling jokes, and appreciating each other’s company. “The accident made us realize how much time we had been wasting every day on things that weren’t important, which prevented us from spending quality time with each other,” she said.
It’s sad that it took an accident to wake this family up, but sometimes it takes dire moments such as this to make us realize what is really important in our lives and what’s not. Stories like this can cause you to ask yourself: “What do I need to stop wasting time on?”
Here are some things to consider, which prompt me to take a look at my own life:
- Distractions that keep you from special moments with special people. – Pay attention to the little things, because when you really miss someone you miss the little things the most, like just laughing together. Indulge in great conversations. Go for walks. Count your blessings, and just let go for a little while and just BE together.
- Comparing yourself to everyone else. – Social comparison is the biggest thief of happiness. You could spend a lifetime worrying about what others have, but it wouldn’t get you anything.
- Worrying about the mistakes you’ve made. – It’s OK if you mess up; that’s how you get wiser. Give yourself a break. Don’t give up. Great things take time, and you’re getting there. Let your mistakes be your motivation, not your excuses. Don’t allow the negative experiences from your past predict your future.
- Trying to impress everyone. – One of the most freeing things we learn in life is that we don’t have to like everyone, and everyone doesn’t have to like us, and that is perfectly OK. No matter how you live, someone will be disappointed. So just live your truth and be sure YOU aren’t the one who is disappointed in the end.
- Temporary fixes. – You can’t change what you refuse to confront. You can’t find peace by avoiding things. Deal with problems head on before they deal with your happiness.
- Other people’s mistakes and oversights. – Be tolerant of people’s mistakes and oversights. Sometimes good people make bad choices. It doesn’t mean they’re bad; it simply means they are human.
- Regrets of any kind. – You don’t have to be defined by the things you once did or didn’t do. Don’t let yourself be controlled by regret. Maybe there’s something you could have done differently, or maybe not. Either way, it’s merely something that has already happened. Leave the unchangeable past behind you and give yourself to the present moment.
- Compulsive busyness. – Schedule time every day to not be busy. Have a dedicated downtime – make room in the day to reflect, rest and recharge. Don’t fool yourself; you’re not so busy that you can’t afford a few minutes of sanity.
- Thinking negatively about your current situation. – Talk about your blessings more than you talk about your problems. Just because you’re struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing. Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there.
- Every point in time other than right now. – Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone. Don’t stress too much about the future, it hasn’t arrived. Do your best to live NOW and make this moment worth living.