10 Things You Should Do For Yourself At Least Once a Year

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  1. Write down a list of things you didn’t think you’d be able to get through and then did. We usually just forget about the issues we spent weeks and months and years panicking over and creating our lives around – because they resolve naturally, or end up only having been issues we made up. So the next time you’re absolutely heartbroken, remember the last breakup you were certain you wouldn’t get over. (You did. You will. This too shall pass.)
  2. Rearrange your space. Even if it’s just moving the TV or changing the orientation of your bed, a shift in the layout of the room you spend the most time in actually does change the way you perceive it. Rooms absolutely carry energy, and a lot of that is dependent on what’s in them, where and for what purpose.
  3. Purge. Your wardrobe, your desktop, your contacts list in your phone: get rid of everything you don’t need, anything or anyone that’s brought negativity or unnecessary anything into your life in the past year. Bring the clothes you haven’t worn/don’t want to an organization you care about (and be mindful of where you donate to in general.) When you get a new phone, only transfer the contacts you need and want to talk to each day, if you can. (Pro tip: keep a “maybe” pile for anything you’re uncertain about. Sleep on it, and then if that thing is lingering in your mind, reflect on why you still need it. You might learn something surprising about yourself and what you really want.)
  4. Take yourself out to dinner. Eating alone is, by contrast, often very calming (if you can get past the cultural notion that you should always eat with somebody, and I’m not saying you shouldn’t!) But eat dinner by yourself, at a restaurant, at least once.
  5. Write down a list of things you’re proud of. Things you’re really, sincerely proud of. Things you never thought you could accomplish and have. The kind of gratitude that comes with appreciating what you’ve done for yourself is unmatched. Let yourself keep surprising yourself. Make your own case for why you should trust yourself – then listen. And keep going.
  6. Maybe on your birthday, make it a point to review your year. Make time to pore over and reflect on everything that has happened — journals, photos, videos, posts on social media — all the parts that combine to show you how far you’ve come. Celebrate your progress and note where you still need work. It’s a beautiful thing to be self-aware enough to take your past and present into account when considering the future.
  7. Next time you’re out shopping, even if you went with the intention of getting something for yourself, buy a gift for somebody who really needs it. Something that is so them they’d cry just realizing that somebody knows them that well.
  8. Buy yourself a new set of your daily basics: makeup, white v-neck t-shirts, a French Press coffee maker, a more comfortable and daily bag, whatever you feel you are in need of. You will thank yourself for this.
  9. Make a list of the things you value, and then next to that, a list of ways you’re going to make those things priorities more often. If you care more about your best friend’s feelings than you do your temporary, petty frustration, prioritize that. If you care more about living peacefully with your roommate than fighting over another dirty dish, prioritize Decide what matters more to you, and how you’re going to resolve your issues in ways that don’t interfere with them. The way you get over anything is simply to start caring about something else more.
  10. Write down a list of things you’re proud of. Things you’re really, sincerely proud of. Things you never thought you could accomplish and have. The kind of gratitude that comes with appreciating what you’ve done for yourself is unmatched. Let yourself keep surprising yourself. Make your own case for why you should trust yourself – then listen. And keep going.
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4 Comments

  1. I love this list, especially the measurable things you can go back and look at and say, “Look how far I’ve come!”

    • Thank you, glad you enjoyed it and found it useful. 🙂

  2. this is a great article!

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