How To Approach The New Year
Out with the old and in with the new. Right? I had a friend call me over the holiday and he was telling me how he was feeling overwhelmed by the thought of the New Year. So much so that he said he felt his anxiety was starting to really kick in. With me being the friend that tells you the truth and not so much what you may want to hear, I asked him why he was feeling the way he was. He said his anxiety stems from him feeling there will be so many expectations placed on him, and not just him placing those expectations on himself, but from others as well. I am sure a lot of us can relate. Well, I am going to tell you the same thing I told him. Don’t allow expectations to be placed on you and you will be fine. I know that is easier said than done for most, but it can be done.
Look, each year most of us make these large resolutions that we never keep. And it’s okay to make resolutions and set goals for yourself, but do them in bits and pieces, this way you won’t feel overwhelmed. You have a whole YEAR to get your stuff together. Don’t put so much stress on yourself to try and fit everything you may not have accomplished the year before into this New Year. Okay, so another year has gone by and you still haven’t done that thing you said you would do the prior year. It’s okay! I have truckloads of goals I have wanted to accomplish and never got to. Why? Because life gets in the way. And it’s okay. None of us can predict the future and what is going to happen to us. No, boo, not even your tarot reader knows what you will face within the year. (That’s a whole other topic). We all have 365 days in a year and 12 months to work on whatever thing we planned to do for that year. So what if you don’t accomplish everything on your list? Just cross off what you did get done and add the rest to next year’s goals. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself and don’t allow others to add pressure to your life. You are probably also wondering if the New Year is going to be your best or worst year, but you will be the one that decides how that will play out, by not allowing yourself to get stressed out, and just go with the flow. Do all you can and the rest put it aside.
I am not saying don’t do all you planned to do for the year, but don’t worry if all you planned doesn’t pan out. Just take it easy and not be so hard on yourself or allow others to add pressure in your life. We only get one life and it is up to us to make that one life our best life.
I hope you take this message into consideration and not be so hard on yourself, or allow others to be hard on you and just be the best you free and happy in 2019.